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  • Meditation to Be At Peace With How Things Are

    Meditation to Be At Peace With How Things Are

    How can we be at peace with how things are right now? In this week’s guided meditation, Dr. Mark Bertin offers a practice to help us be gently aware of sensations, feelings, and thoughts that come up in practice, building presence in the rest of life.

    This is a practice that is both concrete and compassionate. Dr. Bertin guides us to take note of our tendency to either deny or try and “fix” what’s going on in our lives, and then find a third way—one where we aim to see things as clearly as possible, so that our decisions are filled with awareness, skill, and care for everyone involved.

    A Meditation to Be At Peace With How Things Are

    Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.

    1. Start with finding a comfortable posture that you’ll be able to sustain for these few minutes of practice. Bring a sense of kind and patient awareness to our body first. Notice how you’re sitting. Make adjustments so that you feel awake and alert. Notice areas of tension, and see if you’re able to release them a little bit, gathering your awareness and bringing it to the sensation of breathing.
    2. Let go of any need to do anything or make anything happen right now. You can reframe moments where you become distracted from the breath as a success. The mind always stays busy. Things happen that draw our attention and awareness away throughout the day, and each moment you come to the breath is a moment of awareness, a moment of intention. When you get distracted, just remember this sense of intention with clarity. You can say to yourself, Oh, my mind is busy —and then let go and simply come back to the next breath.
    3. Next, expand your awareness to the entirety of your body. Most of us live with experiences of pleasure, and also moments of discomfort or pain at times. And if something definitively needs adjustment to relieve you of some physical pain right now, that’s always okay. But for anything else that’s either comfortable for you to work with or unchangeable in this moment, see if you can simply notice it, and then come back to the breath.  
    4. Now, continue to use your breath lightly as an anchor, shifting your awareness to notice your emotional state. Emotions are part of our experience. They’re there whether we acknowledge them or not. They tend to influence how we think and how we interact with the world, so it’s empowering to cultivate a sense of open and caring awareness. Living peacefully with our emotions as they arise and pass is core to living at peace in the world. It’s also core to staying in touch with our best intentions, as emotions tend to drive the bus if we’re not paying attention to them.  
    5. See if you can give yourself permission for these next few minutes to stay aware of your emotions. Offer care if they’re difficult. Offer compassion and give yourself permission to experience them at all. Let go of any need to fix or change them. Right now I’m experiencing happiness, or Right now I am experiencing sadness, or whatever emotions come to mind. Can you bring to this part of the practice a sense of compassion, too? Lean toward the intention to treat yourself as you would a young child or a close friend.
    6. Remember, if your mind gets distracted, there’s always the option of coming back to following the breath again.
    7. Now, let’s shift our awareness to thoughts. Thoughts can feel so all-consuming, and even through meditation, we can’t make them stop. That’s never the point. Rather, we’re asking if we can live more at peace with this part of our experience, recognizing we each have our own habits. We each make up stories, stories that try to make sense of our past or that project into the future. Problems can feel sticky and all-consuming and ruminative. So for these few minutes of practice, can we note thoughts simply as thoughts? Fears simply as fears. Fantasies simply as fantasies. Observe them like clouds passing in the sky, and also with a sense of peace and care. My mind is in an agitated state right now. This is really exhausting. Or at a different time maybe we experience a quieter mind, a simpler mind, noticing the thoughts as they arrive with more ease. But through the practice, simply noticing and naming: Oh, there is that thought, and then coming back to the breath again.
    8. The intention and perspective we bring to the practice is fundamental to the practice itself. Through the practice, we can aim to live life—even during exceedingly difficult times—with more awareness and compassion and self-care. This leads to a better ability to stay in touch with our own best intentions when we need to act precisely or communicate well. So when we practice, whatever happens will happen. But can we do our best to stay aware, to stay clear of thought, and to stay kind. 
    9. As we bring our practice to a close, settle back into the breath for a moment. Then, perhaps set the intention to continue this sense of compassionate and kind awareness as you move on into the rest of your day. 

    Looking for mindfulness-based tools to live better with ADHD?

    Together with ADHD Life Coach and Certified ADHD Educator Dana Crews, Dr. Bertin is leading a retreat October 10-12, 2025, to support adults navigating life with ADHD. Hosted at the Menla Retreat Center nestled in the serene Catskill Mountains, Held and Whole is a restorative and educational three-day ADHD retreat that will offer practical, mindfulness-based tools to strengthen emotional regulation, deepen self-awareness, and foster authenticity. 

    You can get more information and reserve your spot here. Plus, listeners to this podcast can claim a limited-time 15% early bird discount when they enter code “Mindful” at checkout. Spots are limited!   



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  • What’s the Difference Between Transcendental Meditation and Mindfulness? A Teacher Explains

    What’s the Difference Between Transcendental Meditation and Mindfulness? A Teacher Explains

    Meditation is everywhere these days. Guided meditations or visualizations, mindfulness, walking meditations, body scans, and even mantra meditation are taught in classrooms and workplaces as well as being featured on popular meditation apps. Some people swear by their specific type, others dabble in different ones, and many are simply curious to try but have not yet.

    For me, mantra meditation—more specifically Transcendental Meditation (TM)—has been life-changing. In this piece, I explain what TM is, explore its benefits, and discuss differences between TM and mindfulness meditation.

    Fifteen years ago, in 2009, I began meditating. At the time, my life was shifting in almost every possible way. I had just moved back to my hometown of San Francisco after seven years of teaching in Los Angeles. I had been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, ulcerative colitis. Now, even today, we don’t know everything about this disease, but what we do know is that stress is a major trigger. There I was, diagnosed with a chronic illness, trying to understand my symptoms, manage them, and plan for an unpredictable future. At the same time, another major life event was unfolding: I had just turned 30 and was embarking on the difficult journey of trying to have a baby—an experience that ended up taking three years, filled with doctor’s visits, uncertainty, and loss.

    On top of all this, I was transitioning professionally—moving from being a classroom teacher in LA to working in the central office for SF Unified School District’s new teacher Induction program. It was a lot—personally, professionally, emotionally—and this was the exact moment I started meditating.

    What Is Transcendental Meditation (TM)?

    The style of meditation I learned in 2009 was Transcendental Meditation (TM), through a grant from the David Lynch Foundation offered to employees in the San Francisco Unified School District. TM is a form of mantra-based meditation where you silently repeat a specific word (mantra) to help you focus and transcend ordinary thought patterns. The idea is that the repetition of the mantra allows the mind to settle into a deep state of rest and alertness, fostering a sense of inner peace.

    TM is a form of mantra-based meditation where you silently repeat a specific sound or word (mantra) to help you focus and transcend ordinary thought patterns.

    Learning TM typically involves enrolling at a TM center and paying for instruction, which may be delivered one-on-one or in a small group. When I learned, the program was offered free of charge to SFUSD employees and was conducted in a small group over several sessions, with monthly group check-ins. At the time, the foundation was conducting a clinical trial to explore TM’s impact on health, so participants were divided into two groups: one received instruction in the mantra-based meditation practice immediately, while the other (the control group) began six months later. 

    Regardless of whether you learn TM individually, in a group, or as part of a study, you are given a personal mantra by a certified TM teacher. This mantra—a nonsensical, lyrical word—is meant to be kept private and not shared with others. Some have noted that mantras are assigned based on the age of the practitioner at the time of learning.

    Though TM has its roots in India’s Vedic traditions—some of the oldest known spiritual and philosophical systems, dating back over 3,000 years—the form of TM practiced today originated in the 1950s. While the use of mantras may be linked to ancient Sanskrit texts, TM is taught as a secular practice, distinct from any religious framework. It is presented as a scientific method for reducing stress and enhancing overall health. The technique gained widespread popularity, in part, due to high-profile advocates like The Beatles, who helped bring attention to this form of meditation.

    Scientific research has shown that TM can reduce stress and anxiety, lower blood pressure, and improve overall well-being, immune function,  and sleep. It has been found to enhance cognition, increase creativity, and even help with mental resilience during challenging times. Many people continue to be drawn to TM because of its structured nature—it’s easy to learn, and practitioners are typically taught one-on-one by certified instructors, which provides personalized guidance.

    For me, TM quickly became an anchor in my daily life. As someone who values routines, it was a simple ritual that brought a deep sense of peace and clarity. I found myself looking forward to that post-meditation feeling: lighter, more grounded, and better equipped to face whatever was swirling around me. The anxious thoughts that used to loop endlessly—about infertility, miscarriages, managing colitis through diet, or the stress of potential layoffs as well as the economic recession—began to feel less heavy, less consuming.

    Inspired by the power of TM, I also began to shape a personal approach to mantra-based meditation, one that felt more flexible and accessible. I was curious about how choosing my own mantra or intention might shift the experience. The concept is simple: pick a word or phrase, repeat it silently, and let the mind soften and settle. It’s a calming, effective practice that doesn’t require expensive training or long hours. While TM is one established form of mantra meditation, there are many variations, each adaptable to your own rhythm, needs, and curiosity.

    What Is Mindfulness Meditation?

    Mindfulness meditation is all about being present in the moment, observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. As teacher and educator Diana Winston explains in her Tedx Talk, this type of meditation can be understood as “paying attention to present-moment experiences with openness, curiosity, and a willingness to be with what is.”

    While it’s common to incorporate an intentional focal point in mindfulness meditation—like the breath, a visual cue like a candle, or bodily sensations—this technique is often practiced by simply sitting or lying down in silence and just being with whatever arises. If worry, anxiety, pinging thoughts, or physical pain cause distraction, the meditator notes the distraction without judgment and then gently returns attention to the present moment.

    This type of meditation is accessible, flexible, and encourages people to start where they are. Similar to TM, studies have shown that mindfulness meditation is effective in reducing symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression, improving sleep, and increasing the markers of physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

    While mindfulness can be highly effective for calming the mind, some people find it challenging, especially if their mind is constantly racing. The free form offers lots of room for personalization, but that same lack of structure or focus can be frustrating, especially for newer meditators.

    If you’re someone who has tried mindfulness meditation and found it difficult to make progress, let me share why I gravitated toward mantra meditation.

    Mindfulness vs. Transcendental Meditation: Which Is Right for You?

    So, how do you decide which type of meditation is best for you?

    It really comes down to what resonates with you. Mindfulness meditation is all about being present in the moment, observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. It’s often practiced by focusing on the breath or bodily sensations. While mindfulness can be highly effective for calming the mind, some people find it challenging, especially if their mind is constantly racing. That’s where mantra-based meditation can be helpful. By focusing on a simple word or sound, it can provide an anchor for the mind, making it easier to enter a state of calm.

    For some, mindfulness offers a deeper connection to the present moment, fostering awareness throughout your usual daily activities. For others, TM or mantra meditation can provide quicker relief from mental chatter, especially in stressful moments.

    For some, TM or mantra meditation can provide quicker relief from mental chatter, especially in stressful moments. But for others, mindfulness offers a deeper connection to the present moment, fostering awareness throughout your usual daily activities.

    In my experience, mantra meditation offered a structured way to quiet the mind, whereas mindfulness meditation required more of an open awareness toward the thoughts and emotions that pop up during practice. There’s no one-size-fits-all when it comes to meditation. Some people thrive with mindfulness, while others prefer mantra meditation. And of course, many  benefit from incorporating both practices, depending on the situation.

    A Simple Mantra Meditation Practice for Anyone

    Starting a meditation practice can feel intimidating. There are so many styles, techniques, and ideas about what meditation “should” look like. But in reality, it’s incredibly simple. You don’t need expensive accessories. You don’t need to sit a certain way or clear your mind of all thoughts. You just need a few minutes, a comfortable seat, and a willingness to try. 

    There are so many styles, techniques, and ideas about what meditation “should” look like. But in reality, it’s incredibly simple.

    I practice using a mantra, a simple word or phrase that I repeat silently to focus my mind. I set a timer, close my eyes, and let my thoughts come and go while gently returning to the mantra. That’s it. No pressure, no perfection, just presence. Over time, this small practice has helped me become more creative, more patient, and more resilient. It’s allowed me to meet life’s challenges with a clearer mind and an open heart.

    Start small—just five minutes. Try it for a week and see how you feel. And if you ever have questions or want to learn more about my mantra-based technique, reach out via my website.

    At the end of the day, any form of meditation—mindfulness, mantra, TM, guided or another type—is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. It’s a practice that supports you through life’s toughest moments, enhances your best ones, and ultimately helps you show up as the best version of yourself.

    So, what do you say—let’s get more people meditating! With that goal in mind, I’ve launched a series on TikTok and Instagram called #DeadOrMeditating, aimed at making meditation go viral. Remember when planking took off and people were posting photos of themselves planking in public spaces? That simple trend raised awareness and sparked conversations. Why not do the same with meditation?



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  • 10 Tips to Mindfulness Meditation

    10 Tips to Mindfulness Meditation

    Curious about how to start your own mindfulness meditation practice? This infographic from the Garrison Institute is a great place to begin.

    When it comes to learning a mindfulness meditation practice, or learning anything new for that matter, it helps to bring in some visual representations. Here’s the latest meditation infographic from the Garrison Institute.

    Get all 10 tips below, or click here for the Garrison Institute’s page. Plus, if you’d like a full description of each step, just scroll down. 

    10 Steps to Start Your Mindfulness Meditation Practice

    1. Create time and space. Choose a regular time each day for mindfulness mediation practice, ideally a quiet space free from distractions.
    2. Set a timer. Start with just five minutes, and ease your way up to 15-40 minutes.
    3. Find a comfortable sitting position. Sit cross-legged on the floor, on the grass, or in a chair with your feet flat on the ground. You can also lie down, or find some other position to accommodate mobility or pain issues. The best mindfulness meditation practice is one that works for you and your body’s needs.
    4. Check your posture. Sit up straight, hands in a comfortable position. Keep neck long, chin tilted slightly downward, with your tongue resting gently on the roof of your mouth. Relax your shoulders. Then, close your eyes or use a soft gaze downward 5-10 feet in front of you.
    5. Take a deep breath. Deep breathing in any mindfulness meditation practice helps settle the body, relax the nervous system, and establish your presence in the space.
    6. Direct your attention to the breath. Focus on a part of the body where the breath feels prominent: nostrils, back of throat, diaphragm, chest. Keep one focus; try not to switch.
    7. Maintain attention to your breath. As you inhale and exhale, focus on the breath. If attention wanders, that’s okay. It’s normal for this to happen in any mindfulness meditation practice, even for people who have been doing it for decades! Simply return to the breath. When thoughts come in, which they will, think of them as floating by. Don’t get “hooked” on them—just let them float by and return your attention to your breath.
    8. Keep repeating steps 6-7 for as long as you like. Your mind will wander. Just keep bringing it back to the breath. Think of it like reps in weight lifting: getting distracted isn’t bad, and you’re not doing it wrong, and every time you bring your attention back, you’re actually training and strengthening your focus.
    9. Be king to yourself. Don’t be upset if your focus occasionally drifts, or if you fall asleep. If it helps, you can keep your eyes open, or adjust your posture to keep you more alert if you need to.
    10. Prepare for a soft landing. When the timer goes off, open your eyes when you’re ready. Acknowledge your practice with gratitude.

    Looking for more ways to build your own mindfulness meditation practice? Check out Mindful’s Getting Started page.



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  • Boost Compassion With A Loving-Kindness Meditation

    Boost Compassion With A Loving-Kindness Meditation

    Time required

    15 minutes daily

    Loving-kindness meditation:

    Relax Your Body:

    Close your eyes. Sit comfortably with your feet flat on the floor and your spine straight. Relax your whole body. Keep your eyes closed throughout the whole visualization and bring your awareness inward. Without straining or concentrating, just relax and gently follow the instructions.

    Take a deep breath in. And breathe out.

    Bring Your Attention To The Warmth of Your Heart

    Keeping your eyes closed, think of a person close to you who loves you very much. It could be someone from the past or the present; someone still in life or who has passed; it could be a spiritual teacher or guide. Imagine that person standing on your right side, sending you their love. That person is sending you wishes for your safety, for your well-being and happiness. Feel the warm wishes and love coming from that person towards you.

    Now bring to mind the same person or another person who cherishes you deeply. Imagine that person standing on your left side, sending you wishes for your wellness, for your health and happiness. Feel the kindness and warmth coming to you from that person.

    Now imagine that you are surrounded on all sides by all the people who love you and have loved you. Picture all of your friends and loved ones surrounding you. They are standing sending you wishes for your happiness, well-being, and health. Bask in the warm wishes and love coming from all sides. You are filled, and overflowing with warmth and love.

    Send Loving-Kindness to Loved Ones

    Now bring your awareness back to the person standing on your right side. Begin to send the love that you feel back to that person. You and this person are similar. Just like you, this person wishes to be happy. Send all your love and warm wishes to that person.

    Repeat the following phrases, silently:

    May you live with ease, may you be happy, may you be free from pain. 
    May you live with ease, may you be happy, may you be free from pain.
    May you live with ease, may you be happy, may you be free from pain.

    Now focus your awareness on the person standing on your left side. Begin to direct the love within you to that person. Send all your love and warmth to that person. That person and you are alike. Just like you, that person wishes to have a good life.

    Repeat the following phrases, silently:

    Just as I wish to, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease and happiness.
    Just as I wish to, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease and happiness.
    Just as I wish to, may you be safe, may you be healthy, may you live with ease and happiness.

    Now picture another person that you love, perhaps a relative or a friend. This person, like you, wishes to have a happy life. Send warm wishes to that person.

    Repeat the following phrases, silently:

    May your life be filled with happiness, health, and well-being.
    May your life be filled with happiness, health, and well-being.
    May your life be filled with happiness, health, and well-being.

    Send Loving-Kindness to Neutral People

    Now think of an acquaintance, someone you don’t know very well and toward whom you do not have any particular feeling. You and this person are alike in your wish to have a good life.

    Send all your wishes for well-being to that person, repeating the following phrases, silently:

    Just as I wish to, may you also live with ease and happiness.
    Just as I wish to, may you also live with ease and happiness.
    Just as I wish to, may you also live with ease and happiness.

    Now bring to mind another acquaintance toward whom you feel neutral. It could be a neighbor, or a colleague, or someone else that you see around but do not know very well. Like you, this person wishes to experience joy and well-being in his or her life.

    Send all your good wishes to that person, repeating the following phrases, silently:

    May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be free from all pain. 
    May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be free from all pain. 
    May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be free from all pain. 

    Send Loving-Kindness to All Living Beings

    Now expand your awareness and picture the whole globe in front of you as a little ball.

    Send warm wishes to all living beings on the globe, who, like you, want to be happy:

    Just as I wish to, may you live with ease, happiness, and good health. 
    Just as I wish to, may you live with ease, happiness, and good health.
    Just as I wish to, may you live with ease, happiness, and good health.

    Take a deep breath in. And breathe out. And another deep breath in and let it go. Notice the state of your mind and how you feel after this meditation.

    When you’re ready, you may open your eyes.

    This article was adapted from Greater Good In Action, a site launched by UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center. This exercise draws on a guided meditation created by researcher Emma Seppälä, Science Director of Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education and author of The Happiness Track (Harper One, 2016) and Sovereign (Hay House, 2024).



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  • Can the Nine Attitudes of Mindfulness Do Harm?

    Can the Nine Attitudes of Mindfulness Do Harm?

    Mindfulness teachers and programs often point to what Jon Kabat-Zinn called the Nine Attitudes of Mindfulness: qualities like non-judging, patience, beginner’s mind, trust, non-striving, acceptance, letting go, gratitude, and generosity.

    While incredibly useful, these attitudes were never meant as commandments. They were meant as reminders, helpful reference points to support mindful awareness and compassionate living. But as mindfulness has been repackaged for the workplace, apps, and secular programs, something has gotten lost in translation.

    Instead of flexible guidance, the Nine Attitudes of Mindfulness have, for many, become rigid ideals. What starts as an invitation to live more mindfully can ultimately distort practice, leading to confusion, passivity, and even harm.

    Here’s the hard truth: misunderstanding or over-applying the Nine Attitudes can create real problems—problems I’ve experienced myself.

    I’ve seen it happen firsthand. At Mindful Leader, we teach these attitudes in our MBSR and Certified Workplace Mindfulness Facilitator (CWMF) programs. And yet, here’s the hard truth: misunderstanding or over-applying them can create real problems—problems I’ve experienced myself.

    Towards a Balanced Application of the Nine Attitudes of Mindfulness

    When I first encountered the Nine Attitudes, they made perfect sense on paper. But living and leading by them left me tied in knots. Should I always be patient, even when urgency matters? Should I never judge, even when judgment is necessary? What was meant to help me navigate life started doing the opposite.

    That experience helped shape Open MBSR, a framework I developed to reimagine mindfulness education for real life: practical, nuanced, and free from dogma. One key shift is learning to hold each mindfulness attitude dialectically, not just understanding its intention, but recognizing its limits and natural counterbalance.

    Before I explain what that looks like in practice, let’s take a closer look at where these attitudes can go wrong, and how we might approach them differently.

    When Good Intentions Aren’t Enough: Misinterpreting the Nine Attitudes

    Non-judging

    • Intention: Observing thoughts and experiences without labeling them good or bad.
    • Misapplication: Dismissing critical thought; accepting harmful behavior without healthy self-protection.
    • Example: Excusing repeated disrespect in a relationship under the guise of “not judging.”

    Patience

    • Intention: Recognizing things unfold in their own time.
    • Misapplication: Mistaking patience for endless waiting.
    • Example: Staying in a toxic job or relationship far longer than is healthy, believing “patience” will fix things.

    Beginner’s Mind

    • Intention: Meeting each moment with openness and curiosity.
    • Misapplication: Ignoring hard-won life experience.
    • Example: Discarding valuable skills in the name of a “fresh perspective,” making things harder than necessary.

    Trust

    • Intention: Trusting your intuition and feelings.
    • Misapplication: Blind trust in immediate feelings without discernment.
    • Example: Making impulsive life decisions because “it felt right,” leading to regret.

    Non-striving

    • Intention: Letting go of fixating on outcomes.
    • Misapplication: Abandoning ambition or direction altogether.
    • Example: Neglecting education or career planning, mistaking apathy for peace.

    Acceptance

    • Intention: Acknowledging reality as it is.
    • Misapplication: Resignation or passivity.
    • Example: Ignoring a serious health issue because “I should just accept it.”

    Letting Go

    • Intention: Releasing attachment.
    • Misapplication: Avoiding necessary emotional work.
    • Example: Suppressing anger instead of processing it.

    Gratitude

    • Intention: Cultivating appreciation.
    • Misapplication: Invalidating genuine distress.
    • Example: Over-focusing on “small joys” while ignoring major life dissatisfaction.

    Generosity

    • Intention: Giving from a place of kindness.
    • Misapplication: Giving without boundaries, leading to burnout.
    • Example: Always putting others first until personal health and stability suffer.

    A New Approach: Dialectical Thinking and the Balance of Opposites

    In Open MBSR, we use a dialectical approach, holding two seemingly opposite ideas at once to find a more balanced, practical balanced path.

    This shows up clearly in Taoist philosophy through the concept of Yin and Yang. Yin and Yang represent stillness and activity, receptivity and initiative, opposites that don’t cancel each other out but support and depend on one another.

    Mindfulness works the same way. Each attitude needs its counterpart to stay balanced.

    How That Looks in Practice

    • Non-judging AND Critical Engagement
    • Patience AND Proactive Change
    • Beginner’s Mind AND Leveraging Experience
    • Trust AND Discernment
    • Non-striving AND Goal Orientation
    • Acceptance AND Advocacy for Change
    • Letting Go AND Emotional Engagement
    • Gratitude AND Acknowledgment of Challenges
    • Generosity AND Boundaries

    When we hold these attitudes dialectically, mindfulness becomes something we can actually live…not just something we perform in a meditation room.

    What to Do When the Teaching Itself Is the Problem

    When I first shared these observations, I encountered pushback. One response stuck with me: the suggestion that these issues stem from people simply not understanding the concepts correctly. If people just grasped what these attitudes really mean, the misapplications wouldn’t happen.

    When a teaching is consistently misunderstood, when practitioners across different backgrounds fall into the same predictable traps, it may be time to examine how we’re teaching rather than blaming students.

    This troubled me. When a teaching is consistently misunderstood, when practitioners across different backgrounds fall into the same predictable traps, it may be time to examine how we’re teaching rather than blaming students.

    The patterns we’ve explored aren’t random. When “non-judging” is consistently interpreted as abandoning critical thinking, when “acceptance” repeatedly becomes passive resignation, and when “letting go” predictably turns into emotional avoidance, these are systemic teaching issues, not individual comprehension failures.

    We’ve been presenting these Nine Attitudes of Mindfulness in isolation, stripped from their original Buddhist context that provided natural balance and guidance. When we extract these powerful concepts without equivalent frameworks, we create conditions where practitioners predictably swing toward unhelpful extremes.

    Revitalizing How We Think About & Teach the Nine Attitudes

    It’s time to take ownership. Something is broken in how we’re teaching these attitudes, and we have the opportunity to fix it.

    That’s why I wrote Open MBSR: Reimagining the Future of Mindfulness. It’s not just about fixing how we teach the Nine Attitudes; it’s about redesigning the entire system to be open, practical, and built for today’s world.

    This isn’t a minor tweak to existing programs. It’s a fundamental transformation. The Nine Attitudes can do harm when misapplied, but add dialectical thinking and they become something truly transformative, authentic, and practical.

    A version of this article was first published March 5, 2024



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  • 12 Minute Meditation: Transform Shame Into Self-Trust

    12 Minute Meditation: Transform Shame Into Self-Trust

    Exploring difficult emotions and experiences may be the key to loosening their hold over us. Gentle awareness of our inner world allows us to transform shame in this practice from Patricia Rockman, MD.

    Becoming familiar with a difficult emotion means getting interested and curious about the experience, like you might do when visiting a new city. Take it slow, uncovering new “territory” a bit at a time instead of trying to get to know it all at once. As you navigate shame, you learn that you can sit with uncomfortable feelings, and that they will eventually pass. Over time, you develop resilience, self-knowledge, and trust in yourself—the best antidotes to the self-judgment that shame inspires.

    Thoughts and feelings are larger and scarier when they’re left unexplored and kept in the shadows.

    Whether you’re experiencing feelings of shame right now or have buried shame that you’ve been avoiding, are you willing to get to know it a bit better? Remember, thoughts and feelings are larger and scarier when they’re left unexplored and kept in the shadows.

    12-Minute Meditation: Transform Shame Into Self-Trust

    1. Take a comfortable meditation posture, eyes closed if comfortable. Begin by bringing attention to the body sitting. Attending to the base of the body as it makes contact with the surface you are resting on. Allowing the jaw to soften, shoulder blades sliding down the back and hands at rest in the lap or on your thighs.
    2. Turn your attention to the sensations of breathing at the level of the belly. Attending to the in-breath and the out-breath, the rising and falling of the abdomen. Perhaps letting the breath move in and out of the body naturally, as best you can.
    3. And now, gently bringing to mind an experience or memory, a time in which you felt shame. Maybe it was something you did or something that someone else said about you or to you. Whatever it is, turning toward this memory, experience, or situation gently, as best you can, checking in with what thoughts are present, what emotions, and what body sensations.
    4. Without needing to change or fix anything, beginning to explore what is arising or what is here right now. If there are specific thoughts, as best you can, experiencing them as sensations of the mind, as events that come and go. If there are emotions, naming or labeling them as they make themselves known. Saying to yourself, “Shame is here,” or fear, anxiety, or guilt, whatever it is, and staying with these for a few moments.
    5. And now, shifting your attention to any associated sensations in the body. Investigate these with friendly interest, getting curious about them, even if they’re unwanted or intense, really getting to know them, if that is possible in this moment.
    6. If the sensations are particularly intense or strong, saying to yourself, “This is a moment of difficulty. I can be with this, it’s already here.” If it is helpful, breathing into the sensations, expanding on the in-breath and softening on the out-breath, staying with these sensations as long as they are capturing your attention.
    7. If this is too difficult or feels overwhelming, there is always the choice to return your attention to the breath at the belly or to open your eyes, letting go of this practice. Otherwise, continuing with this attention to the sensations in the body…
    8. And now, returning to the sensations of breathing in the abdomen, to the rising and falling of the belly with each breath, breathing in and breathing out.
    9. And when you’re ready, bringing attention to the entire body, to any and all sensations, resting here in a more spacious awareness, if this is available.
    10. Then gently, with this shameful experience in the background now, asking yourself: Can I let this be as it is? (It’s already here, after all.) Can I let it go? (It’s already happened.) Does it need addressing? Do I have to take an action? If so, what? Can I shift my attitude, bringing a different perspective to this experience? And then gently opening the eyes if they have been closed and letting go of this practice.



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  • An SOS Meditation to Unwind Anxiety

    An SOS Meditation to Unwind Anxiety

    In this week’s guided meditation, teacher and author Melli O’Brien offers a practice to unwind anxiety by connecting with a gentle and steady awareness when you are feeling stressed.

    Often the toughest part of experiencing anxiety is just the sense of being helplessly caught up in the thought loops that keep us feeling stuck and stressed. It’s tough to unwind anxiety, and we long for the kind of support that could actually help escape the tangle of those anxious webs. 

    In this week’s guided meditation, teacher and author Melli O’Brien offers a practice that uses gentle, steady awareness to help you find your calm center again when you’re feeling wound up with stress or anxiety.

    SOS Meditation to Unwind Anxiety

    Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.

    1. If you’re playing this meditation, chances are that something has you feeling a bit stressed or anxious or the body and mind are feeling really tense or wound up. I’m here to support you in finding your center again and helping you to ground in a gentle and steady awareness.
    2. Make sure that you are sitting comfortably. Even if the mind is very busy or the body’s really tense right now, we’re still taking the time to settle. You might even like to lie down on the ground or on a lounge chair or a bed. When you’re ready, allow the eyes to gently close, if that feels okay for you, knowing that you have this time and space just for yourself.
    3. Remember, you don’t have to try to figure anything out or mentally fix anything. There’s nothing you really need to worry about during this time, and there’s no problem to solve. You’ve given yourself this time for meditation, so give yourself full permission to let go of everything else for a while and simply be present, grounding yourself in the here and now and following these instructions as best you can.
    4. Start by letting go of any agenda to get rid of stress or anxiety, or actually to get rid of any part of your experience. Instead, we’re going to practice relaxing with this moment just as it is, and making peace with it.
    5. Take some deeper, slower, and fuller breaths into the belly. As you breathe in, allow the belly to swell a little like a balloon. As you breathe out, allow the belly to soften and subside. Again, long steady and smooth breath in, filling the belly. And then a long, steady, smooth breath out. If anything about this practice feels uncomfortable for you, you can feel free to just let the breath be natural. If there’s any sense of strain or gasping for air, then you can make the breath much more gentle, much more subtle. You might even like to place a hand or both hands on the belly, so you can really feel that rising and falling sensation. Focus on the feeling of the breath in the belly and allowing the movement of the breath to soothe you and settle you. You’re doing great.
    6. As you continue breathing into the belly like this, see if you can get a sense of softening and relaxing a little more with each and every exhale. Let tension begin to melt and soften in the body. Really surrender the weight of your body into gravity, knowing that the ground beneath you is more than able to take your weight and support you and that it’s safe to let go and relax the tension into the here and now.
    7. At the top of this next inhale, if it feels okay for you, hold the breath for a count of three. So breathe in and hold for 1, 2, 3, and then let the breath go. Continue on like that, holding the breath in for the count of 3, and then letting it go. If that doesn’t feel right for any reason, then just continue as before.
    8. Now, after the next exhale, let go of controlling the breath at all. Let the body settle back into its own natural rhythm of breathing, but continue to focus on that rising and falling sensation of the breath in the belly. Again, you can place a hand or both hands there and just feel the hands rising and falling. That’s it. 
    9. As you follow the breath, if at any point you get lost in thought again, it’s not a problem. Each time you’re drawn by a distraction, mentally note to yourself, Just thinking. Then guide your focus back into the breath, feeling the rising and falling of the belly. Ride the waves of breath moment by moment, letting everything else go, resting here in the present moment and breathing, giving yourself this time to rejuvenate, to tap into inner strength. Notice how the body is being rocked and cradled by the flowing sensations of the breath moment by moment.
    10. Remember, distraction is normal. You can return as many times as you need to, settling into the breath, letting yourself soften into the present moment. Continue practicing like this. 
    11. As this practice begins to draw to a close, take another deep, slow, full breath in, and let it go. Two more in the same way, so breathing in…and breathing out. One more time breathing in, this time rolling the shoulders up toward the ears a little on the inhale. As you exhale, relax the shoulders down. Then begin to wriggle your fingers and your toes. Open your eyes, looking around the room, taking in the colors and the shapes all around you.
    12. As you prepare now to go about the rest of your day, make an intention now to take this more centered energy with you into the rest of your day. Thank you for your practice. Go gently with yourself today. And as always, let’s go out there and be kind, be brave, and be the change we want to see.



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  • A Meditation for When You Need a Break

    A Meditation for When You Need a Break

    Mindfulness teacher and author Kimberly Brown offers a relaxing practice for whenever you need a break. Take this moment to pause and reconnect with yourself.

    Sometimes, when we need a break, the best gift we can give ourselves is just a moment set aside for quiet, breath, and reminding ourselves of who we really are. 

    In this gentle guided practice, Kimberly Brown uses simple repeated phrases to ground attention and offer a place to rest and reset.

    A Meditation for When You Need a Break

    Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.

    Turn inward. You can say to yourself, Hello, I’m here. Hello, my beautiful self, I am here for you. Whatever is arising in me is welcome.

    Note that this practice includes longer pauses of complete silence for reflection and presence. If you want more time, feel free to pause the recording as you go.     

    1. To begin, remember that, for these few minutes, you don’t have to do anything. Make a decision and a commitment to yourself to shut off your devices, to stop talking, and to find a quiet place where you can be undisturbed. So if you need to, pause this recording and take a couple of minutes, find your spot, and then come back. Then, when you’re ready, get still.
    2. Take an attitude of welcoming. Say hello to yourself and whatever you’re experiencing right now. Put one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and really turn the attention toward you. It’s very likely you’ve been looking out. Turn inward. You can say to yourself, Hello, I’m here. Hello, my beautiful self, I am here for you. Whatever is arising in me is welcome.
    3. Now gather all of your attention and bring it to your hands, feeling the tops of your hands, the palms of your hands, each finger as they are resting on your heart and on your belly. Connect through your palms with your breath. You can experience your body moving on each inhale and each exhale as you rest your attention on the tops of your hands and the palms of your hands and each finger. Just for a couple of moments, choose to keep your attention here, on your hands, feeling your breath. And when your attention moves away, gently but firmly bring it back, like a kind parent keeping a child safe.
    4. Where is your attention right now? Do you need to gently come back to the feelings of your breath, to your fingers and your palms? Just for one more minute, rest here.
    5. Now, with your attention gathered to your hand on your belly and your hand on your heart, imagine you’re with someone who loves you easily. This could be a dear old friend, an aunt, an uncle, a pet, a teacher. Imagine the two of you are in a place that’s meaningful to you, a place that is comfortable and safe to you. I’d like you to notice their face and their beautiful presence. And notice how you feel in their presence. Now, say to them and to you, May we stay connected to our true selves. May we be steady and brave. May we stay connected to our true selves. May we be steady and brave. For just a couple of minutes here, keep this visualization of the two of you, continuing to repeat these phrases like you’re giving a gift. May we stay connected to our true selves. May we be steady and brave.
    6. Have you lost your connection with the two of you? Are you planning or remembering? It’s okay. Gently come back, imagining you and this dear being, beginning again. May we stay connected to our true selves. May we be steady and brave. Just for another minute or so, repeating these phrases like you’re giving a gift. 
    7. Allow yourself to give this gift of kindness to this loved one. Just check in with yourself. If your attention has wandered from this dear one, reconnect. See their lovely face. Continue repeating, May you stay connected to your true self. May you be steady and open. 
    8. Keeping your hands on your heart and on your belly, you can let the visualization dissolve. Just be here in this moment with your presence, with your experience, with your beautiful self, and giving yourself the same wisdom. May I stay connected to my true self. May I be steady and open.
    9. I encourage you to continue practicing, even after this recording ends. Alternatively, you can conclude it now and practice it again and again when you feel that you need a break. Before you get up, open your eyes, re-engage with your life, your busy-ness—before you do that, thank yourself. Remember how valuable it is to get in touch with your compassion and your wisdom, your true nature. Thank yourself for this practice, and I thank you for your practice and your good heart.



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  • Guided Meditation: Use Distraction to Hone Your Focus

    Guided Meditation: Use Distraction to Hone Your Focus

    In this week’s guided meditation, mindfulness teacher and designer Toby Sola shows us how we can use what distracts us to strengthen and sharpen our attention.

    It might seem counter-intuitive, but intentionally tuning in to what’s distracting you can actually help strengthen your ability to focus.

    In today’s guided practice, meditation teacher Toby Sola introduces what he calls a “concentration algorithm.” This practice will help you identify which type of sensory experience you are naturally drawn to, and then give you a structure for how to focus on it, so that you can quickly attain deep concentration.

    Note that this meditation includes long pauses of complete silence as part of the practice. If you want more time, feel free to pause the recording as you go. 

    Use Distraction to Hone Your Focus

    Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.

    1. In this meditation, we’ll explore what I like to call the “concentration algorithm.” Take a moment to stretch up and settle in. You can practice today’s meditation with your eyes open or closed. Bring your attention to the breath. No need to breathe in a specific way, just breathe at a natural pace. Notice air coming in and out of your nose. Notice your chest and belly expanding and contracting. If your attention wanders to thoughts, sounds, or other experiences, that’s fine. Allow the distractions to come and go in the background of your awareness. Then, gently bring your attention back to the breath. 
    2. Now take a moment to check in. What have you been most distracted by? Was your neighbor mowing the lawn, and you were distracted by the sound of the mower? Or were you distracted by thoughts? This doesn’t have to be exact, just take a guess.
    3. Which of the following categories best describes what was distracting you the most? If you had to guess, what were you most distracted by? What category does that fall into? The options are: sight, sound, physical body sensation other than the breath, mental image, mental talk, and emotional body sensation.
    4. Now let’s switch techniques. For the next little bit, focus on whatever was distracting you the most. For example, if you were distracted by sounds in your environment, focus on the sounds. Or if you’re distracted by bursts of mental talk, listen to those carefully. 
    5. Sometimes, an experience might end when we go to focus on it. For example, you focus on the sound of your neighbor mowing their lawn, but then they turn off the mower. This is very common with mental images and mental talk, as well. We may notice bursts of mental talk or flashes of mental images, but when we try to focus on them, they scurry away, like mice when a cat enters the room.
    6. Here is a tried and true trick of the meditation trade: If an experience ends when you go to focus on it, that’s fine. Just focus on the corresponding restful state. For example, if a sound disappears, focus on silence. If mental talk disappears, just focus on mental quiet. If mental images disappear, focus on a blank mental screen. If you remember that you can always focus on the corresponding restful state, then you’ll always have something to hone your focus on. Keep this in mind as you continue to focus on whatever was distracting you from the breath.
    7. Let’s check in once more. Since switching techniques, what have you been most distracted by? Remember, you can choose from sound, physical body sensation, mental talk, mental image, or emotional body sensation.
    8. Let’s switch techniques one last time. Focus on whatever was distracting you the most. And if it stops, just focus on the corresponding restful state. For example, focus on emotions in the body, unless they stop, in which case you’d focus on emotional peace. Or focus on your mental talk, unless it stops, in which case, you focus on the mental quiet.
    9. Before we wrap up, take a moment to reflect. We focused on a few things today. What was the easiest to focus on? There’s no right or wrong answer, we’re just exploring and getting to know our minds. Whatever was the easiest to focus on, remember that, and hone your focus on that next time you meditate.
    10. This is how the concentration algorithm works. It helps us discover which type of sensory experience we are naturally drawn toward, and then gives us a structure for how to focus on it, so that we can quickly attain deep concentration. 



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  • Summer Meditation Retreat: 6 Mindfulness Practices for Self-Care

    Summer Meditation Retreat: 6 Mindfulness Practices for Self-Care

    Summary

    • During the summer mindfulness can become an invitation to savor things more completely.
    • Rather than only appreciating the best experiences, savoring every aspect of life allows us to discover the gifts that often hide within unwelcome or challenging moments.
    • Savor the summer with a free collection of 6 guided meditations from expert mindfulness teachers.

    The word “savoring” crops up a lot in instructions for mindful eating, but why stop there? Inspired by that notion, I decided to challenge myself to a week of savoring things. As I started out, I began to see that I was automatically leaving lots of things out—things that were, well, unsavory—so the challenge had to undergo some immediate reengineering. It would have to become about savoring everything. Yikes.

    If I was going to savor the unsavory I would have to be thankful somehow for whatever came my way.

    That immediately led me to the understanding that if I was going to savor the unsavory I would have to be thankful somehow for whatever came my way. I would have to embrace the artificially sweetened (but still valuable) “attitude of gratitude.” It was a bit of a revelation. What I was prepared for was taking time to really enjoy things, in the present moment. What I wasn’t prepared for was how much it would challenge underlying attitudes and assumptions. When the week was over, I came to some conclusions about how savoring can reach into every area of life.

    6 Ways to Savor the Moment

    By Barry Boyce

    1) When things are good…savor the joy

    When things are good, it should be easy to savor them. But it took more effort to savor something I already appreciated than I would have imagined. Joy came in the sudden realization that the body is always in the present, no matter where my thoughts take me, and I can always return to that.

    2) When it’s every kind of bad…savor the resilience

    I can glimpse the fact that pain, whether physical or emotional, is something that lets us know we are alive. And as we try to manage it as best we can, we are humbled, we are vulnerable, we seek help. We find a way. We bounce back. And, as we savor the equanimity, we learn to take the good and the bad.

    3) When it’s boring…savor the freedom

    As we all keep discovering in meditation, we don’t really need to keep ourselves occupied with extra thoughts. It’s peaceful to take a break from that. My savoring challenge helped me learn (once again) to savor the freedom from the need to entertain myself every minute of the day.

    4) When it’s unwieldy…savor the laughter

    When things go haywire, the same tendency we have with hassles—to indulge in some “why me?” time—can easily take over. But, I’m starting to really appreciate the antidote that a meditation teacher friend of mine told me about: Just say “Why not me?”

    5) When you’re alone…savor the space

    In the right doses, being by ourselves can be deeply restorative. It can help us discover a deep reservoir of contentment that does not need to be chased after. That kind of space—a space of awe and wonder and simplicity—is well worth savoring. It may be the most savory treat of all.

    6) When you’re with others…savor the companionship

    The sheer joy of a shared laugh. The moments of listening when you need to be heard. The shoulder to cry on. Someone to share ups and downs, without caring which it is. I’m blessed with friends all over the world, people I can connect with within minutes no matter how long it’s been. Other human beings…what’s not to savor?

    Summer Meditation Retreat: 6 Mindfulness Practices for Self-Care

    Day 1: Connect With Presence

    By Sharon Salzberg

    If we can practice savoring the present moment when we’re sitting in formal meditation, we can also practice while standing in line at the grocery store, sitting anxiously in a doctor’s waiting room, or sitting down for a meal in good company. A portable exercise in meditation is focusing on the sensations of the in- and out-breath. If the breath is not a comfortable place for you, choose another object of attention like the sensation of your hands touching your knees.

    A 10-Minute Breathing Meditation

    This variation of breath meditation can be especially supportive if you feel restless or bored. Savor the freedom to simply let your mind be. It doesn’t matter how many times your attention wanders or how long you may dwell in distraction during this summer meditation. The practice is gently letting go and, with kindness toward yourself, beginning again.

    1. Sit comfortably and relax. Let your attention settle on the feeling of the breath at the nostrils, chest, or abdomen. As you breathe in make the silent mental note “in,” and as you breathe out you can count “one.” This becomes inhale “in,” exhale “one,” inhale “in,” exhale “two,” all the way up to ten. When you get to ten you can begin again.
    2. If your mind becomes distracted, and you lose touch with the breath—that’s OK. You can begin again. Stay connected to the rhythm of the breath with the mental note and the number.
    3. See if your awareness of the breath can be full and complete. Your attention is wholehearted with “in, five,” “in, six,” “in, seven,” all the way through to ten. Each breath is full and complete on its own—with the counting there to support you.
    4. When you feel ready, you can move into the rest of your day.

    A 7-Minute Meditation to Rest Your Attention

    Our habitual tendency is to grasp a thought or a feeling, to build an entire world around it, or push it away and struggle against it. It can be helpful to instead note what is painful, pleasant, or otherwise. Here we stay even, balanced, and calm, as we recognize what arises and bring our attention back, one breath at a time.

    1. Sit comfortably or lie down. Settle in to a comfortable position.
    2. Center your attention on the sensations of the in- and out-breath, at the nostrils, chest, or abdomen. As you feel the sensations of the breath, you can make a mental note of “breath” with the in-breath and then again with the out-breath.
    3. When a thought or feeling arises that’s strong enough to take your attention away from the breath, note it silently as “not breath.” You don’t have to judge yourself; you don’t have to get lost in a thought or elaborate it. Recognize that it’s simply not the breath.
    4. Bring your attention back to the sensations of the breath. Some of your thoughts or feelings may be tender, caring, cruel, or hurtful, but they’re not the breath. You can recognize them, let them go, and bring your attention back to the sensations of the breath.
    5. When you feel ready, come back to your surroundings.

    Day 2: Connect With Yourself

    By Sebene Selassie

    Belonging is the sense of ease and joy we can savor when we are truly present. Often we don’t feel like we belong because we’re caught in feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and doubt. Feelings of not belonging are learned over time and lead us to think that there’s something wrong with us, that we’re not enough, that we don’t belong—but we do. By the very nature of our existence, we belong. Mindfulness helps us remember this by allowing us to experience belonging in any moment.

    A 9-Minute Meditation to Listen to Your Body

    Meditation can help us be more present to life, and mindfulness of body and breath help ground that presence. It’s only when we’re present with each moment that we can savor our experience. This summer meditation invites you to try grounding yourself throughout the day, feeling the body and using the inquiry, “What’s happening in my body right now?”

    1. Find a comfortable posture. You don’t have to do anything special, just make sure that you’re relaxed and alert. Lower your gaze and give yourself the opportunity to go inward.
    2. Bring awareness to the sensations you notice while sitting. It can take some time and practice to feel sensations in the body rather than think about them. Is there a sensation in the body that’s particularly strong or clamoring for attention? It’s OK if you don’t notice anything. Just recognize your experience as it is and see if you can bring a sense of curiosity to it. You can ask yourself, “What’s happening in my body right now?”
    3. Whatever is happening, continue this inquiry. Notice the sensations that are present. When the mind starts to wander, gently bring your awareness back to the body. Again, ask yourself, “What’s happening in my body right now?”
    4. Bring the same curiosity to your breath. If the breath is not a comfortable place for you, continue grounding in sensations of the body. Otherwise, take a moment to connect to the natural rhythm of your breath. Notice your belly rising and falling. You can always ask yourself, “What’s happening in my body right now?”
    5. Know that you can come back to the body at any moment, as you come back to the space around you.

    A 7-Minute Meditation to Welcome Open Awareness

    Open awareness meditation is often associated with the metaphor of the mind being like an open sky. We can observe thoughts, sensations, sounds, but they simply pass like clouds in the sky, or they can flow like a river savor the space between you and what drifts past. The sky is not bothered, the river is not changed, everything is carried by the current of awareness.

    1. Find a comfortable posture. If you like you can gaze down softly at a point in front of you. Allow your body to soften and rest. Feel the connection between your body and the floor or the chair beneath you.
    2. Bring your awareness to the sensations of being right here, right now. Begin to listen to the play of sounds around you. You can notice sounds that are loud or soft, far or near—just listening. You don’t need to name the sound, or follow the sound, just listen in a relaxed and open way. Notice how all sounds arise and vanish as you listen.
    3. Sense that your awareness is expanding to be like the sky—open, clear, vast. Allow your awareness to extend in every direction. Sounds come and go, moving through the sky of your awareness, appearing and disappearing as you rest in this open awareness. You might notice that thoughts and images also arise and vanish. You can let them come and go without resistance or grasping.
    4. Allow the breath or sensations in the body to move like a breeze in this open sky of awareness. Notice that this awareness is naturally clear and spacious. Allow all sounds, thoughts, and sensations, feeling that spaciousness.
    5. As you lift your gaze, pause for a moment to reorient to the space around you.

    Day 3: Connect With Everything

    By Jessica Morey

    We tend to focus our minds on what is wrong or threatening or what could harm us so that we might be better protected through the vagaries of life. But if we allow that bias to run rampant, we risk missing out on what’s beautiful, joyful, and nourishing in our lives. Not to mention, we grow less equipped to cultivate beauty and joy and nourishment in ourselves.

    A 14-Minute Summer Meditation to Appreciate Joy

    Perhaps it seems strange to investigate what we consider to be a positive emotion, but we often miss joy. We don’t pay a lot of attention to it and let it slip by without much notice. The good news is, there are practices to cultivate joy. It can be sparked by something enjoyable, or we can attend to and support joy in our felt experience. One of the great ways to do that is to savor—really stop and savor—what’s beautiful and good in life.

    1. Take a seat or lie down if you’re in a place where you can do that. Take a few deep breaths, lengthening your inhale and your exhale. During these opening breaths, notice how you’re feeling. If you’re feeling tired or drowsy, emphasize the inhale. If you’re feeling agitated or restless, emphasize the exhale. Then allow your breath to come to its natural rhythm.
    2. Now bring to mind recent joyful moments. Alternatively, you could reflect on things you’re grateful for in your life. Choose a few moments of joy and gratitude to focus on.
    3. Reflect on receiving the joy of these experiences. Bring your attention into your body. Notice how you experience joy in this moment. Where do you feel it in your body? The chest, the belly, the throat, the face? What do you notice? Is there a temperature to the joy? Is there a flow or movement to the energy of joy in your body?
    4. If you lose that felt sense of connection, just recall the images, people, or situations that bring you joy. Then return to savoring the felt sense of joy in your body. Breathe into it.
    5. Take a moment to reflect on the people, places, or situations that bring you joy. What were the things that really inspired a felt sense of joy for you? How can you bring more of that into your life?
    6. When you’re ready, bring your attention back to your environment. Take a deep breath. Orient yourself to the space around you and notice how you feel right now.

    A 14-Minute Meditation to Explore What’s True

    Longing is a vulnerable emotion, but it’s also very important. It directs us toward what we want in the world—where we want to go, what we value, what we want to create. When we can stay with the emotion and get to know it on a deeper level, there’s a great deal of wisdom at our disposal. If we can feel into it, be with it, and notice what’s underneath and inside of it, we can then better decide how we want to respond next.

    1. Settle into a comfortable position. You may be seated, or you’re welcome to lie down. Wherever you are, take a few deep breaths. You can cast your gaze down and ahead.
    2. Feel into your body and ask yourself: Is there anything I need right now? Is there anything I’m longing for in this moment? You may want something to be different, or you may be longing for a particular experience. Ask yourself: What do I want? What do I need?
    3. If nothing is emerging for you, bring to mind a recent experience when you really wanted something. Maybe you wanted to be seen or acknowledged; maybe you wanted to connect with a certain person, or you wanted someone to call you or attend to you. Identify a recent experience you had of longing and consider the situation, the people, the place.
    4. Turn your attention toward the felt sense of the wanting. Hold this feeling of wanting, and as you do, see if you can identify what it is that you want—below the particularities. What universal need are you touching upon? Maybe you want respect, ease, joy, or connection.
    5. Consider this question: How could I meet this need? Take a few moments to explore the creative ways this need could be met.
    6. Take a few deep breaths. Feel your body on the chair or on the ground. When you’re ready, lift your gaze.



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