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  • Attention! How Mindfulness Training Is Helping People Reclaim Their Ability to Focus

    Attention! How Mindfulness Training Is Helping People Reclaim Their Ability to Focus

    It seems that distraction is the oxygen we breathe nowadays, with infinite bits of information at our restless fingertips. Each time I open my Edge browser, captivating news headlines and flashy images assault me. Half the time, I forget where I was headed!

    Is the effort to maintain control of our attention a fool’s errand? Nicholas Carr, in his best-seller, The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains, notes that more than a few top journalists have stopped reading books because 1) they can easily find the information they need at Wikipedia and other online sources, and 2) their attention spans have withered.

    Mindfulness meditation nudges us in the opposite direction. Rather than surround ourselves with endless options, we simplify. The practice has us paying attention to this present moment, with curiosity, kindness, and nonjudgment. In place of multitasking and busyness, we discover present-moment attentiveness free from the relentless push to look for more. Mindfulness serves as a counterbalance—a grounding influence that keeps us very much here, on the spot.

    Mindfulness serves as a counterbalance—a grounding influence that keeps us very much here, on the spot.

    What Attention Training for ADHD Can Teach Neurotypical Practitioners

    For people living with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), the need for attention training might be more pointed. In the winter and spring of 2025, two groups completed my six-week “Mindfulness for ADHD” workshop series, with the option to extend to nine weeks. 

    I wanted to track if and how these techniques were making a difference for workshop attendees. Participants completed a 19-question evaluation at the beginning and end of the program, and data was analyzed for those who completed both: 5 participants from the 6-week program, and 3 from the 9-week program.

    One evaluation statement read, “I get distracted easily, and have a hard time refocusing on a task.” With these negatively worded statements, greater disagreement shows improvement. The totals for both groups were pre: 14 and post: 20—a 43% increase.

    Henry, one of the participants, offered this reflection: “I realize the benefits from feeling more grounded and able to recognize when distractions are impacting me and how to handle them in order to get on with things that are most important.”

    One common misunderstanding of mindfulness is that we are cultivating a particular state of mind, like calm or bliss, and anything that interrupts this process (“monkey mind”) is a detriment. People who subscribe to this perfectionist view tend to become discouraged when their ideal doesn’t materialize. They often quit, concluding that mindfulness is not for them. 

    One common misunderstanding of mindfulness is that we are cultivating a particular state of mind, like calm or bliss, and anything that interrupts this process (“monkey mind”) is a detriment.

    The effort in mindfulness practice is not to exert oneself to keep the mind focused on a particular object, such as the breath. Rather, the aim is to recognize the wandering mind and return our attention to a stable anchor of awareness—such as our breath, or feet on the floor. This exercise develops attention, and builds resiliency. You might as well be falling down and getting back up again, over and over. 

    Starting With Simple Intentions

    In one of the weekly sessions, participants were asked to set their intention in the beginning of the day, on arising. They identify a priority, such as cleaning the living room, and then keep reminding themselves of this during the day when they get involved in other activities—an active application of the meditation technique.

    “I saw how often my mind drifted from the intention,” wrote Casey, a longtime mindfulness practitioner. “By the end of the series, I had a good grip on it and was able to take on the task of painting my bathroom using this approach, and now it’s finished. I was so used to not getting things done in the past!”

    The Multitasking Myth

    Our modern culture is wedded to multitasking: the belief that we need to be dextrous at paying attention to a bunch of things at the same time. Research, however, has dismantled this myth, as neuroscientists have shown that the human brain is best suited to paying attention to one task at a time. Any more than this creates stress, increases errors, and begins to erode productivity.

    The main dealbreaker is that when we shift our attention, say, from reading an article to looking up a website, our brain has to reorient to the new context, and then when we go back to the article, we have to reorient again. This chews up precious cognitive resources, a process that researchers refer to as “switch costs.”

    Replacing multitasking with mindfulness resonated with a third group of four “Mindfulness for ADHD” participants when they responded to the statement, “Multitasking is a great way to get a lot done.” 40% of them agreed starting out, and at the end of the program, 75% disagreed/strongly disagreed.

    The people living with ADHD in these three groups were relieved to hear that simplifying to one thing at a time conserves cognitive resources and reduces stress, while preserving attention. And this message strikes a chord with the general population as well. In a 10-week Workplace Mindfulness training conducted with 10 police officers, their response to: “Multitasking enables me to accomplish more” showed a major change of mind (significant disagreement) in the post evaluation.

    The “Mindfulness for ADHD” program included a pausing practice that we call “head and shoulders.” It’s a way to take an immediate break from a challenging situation—overwhelm, frustration, stress—connect with the big picture (open space), and then revisit the challenge with a spacious frame of mind. “Learning to pause before reacting and to stay present with one task at a time,” says Gloria, “has been especially helpful.” The group with four participants showed strong improvement  with regard to the evaluation statement, “I tend to be impulsive, taking action, and then regretting it later,” progressing from 75% agree/strongly agree (pre) to 50% disagree (post).

    Anxiety and stress are common in connection with attention difficulties. The evaluation statement that showed the greatest improvement with the first two ADHD groups was:

    “I get stuck with the storylines that can make me feel anxious or stressed, and I don’t know how to pause or interrupt this pattern.” 

    In the first two groups, disagreement increased by 70% (Total scores: pre: 17; post: 29). The third group progressed from 75% strongly agree/agree (pre) to 50% disagree (post).

    Mindfulness isn’t like a vending machine where you simply put in a coin and out pops a bag of chips. There isn’t a one-to-one relationship between the practice and outcomes, which derives from the non-goal orientation of the practice. Of course, we’d like to get something out of it, but at the same time we are encouraged to check our ambition at the door. That way, we can be present with the actual practice, following the instructions as best we can, without hankering for something outside this moment.

    When we’re stuck on storylines, it’s like our thoughts are amplified by loudspeakers, glued to our ears. Mindfulness practice has us noticing when this is happening, acknowledging that these are thoughts which come and go.  We don’t have to “fix” anything. We just return our attention to this world here. Some mindfulness folks see this back and forth activity as exercising a mental muscle. We learn that, through awareness, we can radically change how we relate to our thoughts, ranging from being mesmerized and trapped, to objective discernment.

    Noticing Thoughts Without Judging Them

    Relating to our thoughts without judgment is key. 

    Getting stuck understandably makes people feel anxious or stressed. When we’re trapped in a whirlwind of thoughts, stress and anxiety are not far behind. Their impact on the brain affects working memory, which is closely related to attention.

    “Research has shown that rapidly changing circumstances, worry, and anxiety can all have a significant impact on your ability to focus,” writes Kate Morgan in the BBC’s “How Anxiety Affects Your Focus.” It stands to reason that learning how mindfulness tools can help deal with anxiety can assist us in regaining attention capacity.

    Mindfulness is not about getting rid of stress and anxiety, but relating to them with openness and curiosity—seeing them as they are, without the varnish of habitual patterns, bias, and aversion.

    People’s sense of powerlessness often arises from the fact that they don’t know how to pause or interrupt this looping cycle of distraction, anxiety, compromised focus, and judgmental thoughts. That momentary pause to be with our self-critical thoughts in a new way seems like it might not do much, but it’s actually doing a lot of work. Since it’s so easy to habitually get drawn in, putting a pin in it and taking a mental step back, even just for a breath, becomes a game-changer.

    Attention Training Matters In a Distracted World

    The mindfulness elements of grounding, present-moment orientation, kindness towards oneself, and developing awareness, attention, and nonjudgment are of course not restricted to people with ADHD. In fact, a key reason for the growing widespread interest in mindfulness is the crying need for balance and well-being in the midst of our techno-addled consumerist-driven world. 

    These skills take time to develop, and the process isn’t linear. But a growing body of research is showing that these mindfulness practices work to strengthen our attentional capacity, reduce the attendant stress of constant distractability, and enhance our sense of personal agency in a noisy world that’s relentlessly trying to pull us out of the present moment.



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  • Thanks for the Stuff that Isn’t Just Stuff and Gratitude for What Matters Most

    Thanks for the Stuff that Isn’t Just Stuff and Gratitude for What Matters Most

    Barry Boyce, Mindful’s founder, reflects on the ravages of Hurricane Sandy in 2012, and is thankful for people who remember what matters most, especially in trying circumstances. 

    Something I’ve always loved about Thanksgiving is that we’re mostly thankful for the people (and some good food) and not for “the stuff.” Even with the attendant commercialization that marks the official beginning of The Holiday Season, this brief pause seems to focus on what matters most. 

    For a seemingly increasing number of people the blessed four-day weekend at this time does seem to involve some retail hysteria, but for many families I talk to, it’s still a few days that are focused on the most basic of values. One of my most favorite Thanksgivings was two years ago when I found myself alone with my mother at her nursing home. In a conventional sense, there may have been little for either of us to be thankful for. Her circumstances were reduced, the food could hardly be described as tasty, and other family members were in far flung places having their own Thanksgivings. 

    And yet, we were thankful. Thankful for the company, and just to be breathing air together. We took a long ride in the countryside and my mother opened up and talked about her own mortality in a way she had not before. That too was a thankful moment. We can give thanks for those times when we can be open with someone else about fears and thoughts that by custom we’re not supposed to reveal. Shortly after the next Thanksgiving, my mother did indeed die. I’m ever grateful for that last Thanksgiving with her and the frankness of the conversation 

    This year, I’m particularly inspired by the example of the clothing designer Eileen Fisher and the response of her company to the predations of Hurricane Sandy. Fisher, who launched her business in Tribeca in 1984, made a quality-of-life move upriver to the lovely, un-hectic bedroom community of Irvington in 1992. Known for being a values-conscious retailer and employer (and a mindfulness meditator), by all accounts Fisher has treated her people well, kept her eye on environmental values, and been very community conscious. Her spacious riverfront headquarters includes a second-floor space for yoga and whatnot and a ground floor space where a meditation group has been gathering during off-hours for a few years. 

    On the Monday morning Sandy hit, Fisher’s headquarters filled with water to the height of two file cabinet drawers in some places, her facilities manager told the New York Times. The large plate glass window of her nearby retail store and community gathering space were shattered by the storm. A strikingly beautiful red couch went floating freely and relocated itself to another part of the store. Mud was everywhere in headquarters and store alike. The company’s New Jersey warehouse was shuttered, as was the Manhattan design center, power was spotty, transportation was hampered by gas shortages, shipments were frozen. 

    Twelve dumpster-loads and eight mobile storage units of goods were damaged, to the tune of $1.5 million. And yet Ms. Fisher told the Times, “It was just stuff.” 

    Her composure and equanimity are inspiring, not to say that of her staff, who mobilized on all fronts, to make sure not only that a cleanup could begin quickly and the engine of commerce set in motion again, but also that employees could be paid and offered interest-free loans or advances if they needed cash during the crisis. With few desks to inhabit, they cadged meeting space where they could and car-pooled to save on gas. While everything is far from in full working order weeks after the storm, Eileen Fisher is back in business.

    As Stephanie Clifford wrote in the Times, there was “an almost out-of-body detachment on executives’ part to see past the emotion of sewage-soaked shirts and stained rolls of fabric to the prize of reopening a ravaged business.” That’s a great description of resilience. We might say it’s only a business, but businesses put food on the table and make life for communities. And when a business has a human face, even in crisis, that’s worth being thankful for.



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  • Thanksgiving All Year Long: 5 Simple Gratitude Practices for Daily Life

    Thanksgiving All Year Long: 5 Simple Gratitude Practices for Daily Life

    5 Simple Gratitude Practices for Daily Life

    1) Begin with Gratitude for Your Body—Elaine Smookler

    Some days I wake up and notice that my spring has already sprung and each movement has a kind of creaking quality. After years of practicing mindfulness, it makes me smile. Whatever experience I’m having—good, bad, pleasant, unpleasant—I will never pass this way again. 

    This is an invitation to explore the experience of the present moment in all its gory glory. You can do this practice sitting, standing, upside down or whatever way you find the present moment. 

    1. Let’s start by taking three nice big breaths. Breathe in for a count of three and out for a count of five. Do you notice? You’re alive. It’s actually kind of amazing. Can you bring your attention to the jaw-dropping wonder that is the human body?
    2. Let’s start with the toes, bringing attention to your feet touching the ground. You may be amazed by how many sensations there are to experience, whether it’s tingling, pulsing, restlessness, hot, cool, moist, dry, ticklish, itchy, numb, neutral. What do you notice about paying attention to these small experiences? Is it possible that they could help you cultivate gratitude for this body that’s going to accompany you through your life?
    3. As you move up the legs, what do you feel? Whenever I feel anything uncomfortable, I notice how much I want to make meaning out of it. Instead, I invite us all to just feel what’s here without making any meaning of it at all. It’s all so interesting. So this is what’s happening now. 
    4. Moving up the land of pelvis, I notice clenching the moment I go to explore sensations in my bladder. Do I dare? Again, reminding myself that it’s not about trying to relax or make anything easier or better. I use these moments of awareness to widen the palette of colors available to experience what it is to be a human. When you do this, what do you notice? 
    5. Continuing the journey up the body, eventually we encounter the beautiful belly filled with so many stories. Loss, longing, yearning, wanting. Can you be grateful for all that it’s experienced and send it love and appreciation? 
    6. Moving up through the torso, this luscious landscape which houses heart and lungs, you may picture an inner river pumping and flowing, bringing juicy life through the body.
    7. When you reach your shoulders, you can lay gentle hands on yourself, massaging some of the day’s stress away. Taking a moment to be grateful for all that our shoulders shoulder. Swooping down through arms to fingers, I thank them for allowing me to be independent in so many ways. Can you offer appreciation to your hands and arms that work so hard? 
    8. We visit the neck and face. Are lips dry or moist? Are your teeth clenched? What about the jaw? Can you feel the air moving in and out of your nostrils? Can you notice your eyeballs, top of head, back of head, side of head, and ears?
    9. On an out-breath, let go of focused awareness. On an in-breath, expand your attention around the entire body, noticing all the sensations reminding you that you are alive right now. What do you notice when you bring the spirit of gratitude into every precious moment that you and your body share together?

    2) Allow Gratitude to Connect You to All Living Things—Shauna Shapiro

    Mindfulness, self-compassion, gratitude, and the practices that emerge from them help free us from the prison of isolation and the delusion of separation. These practices open our minds, awaken our hearts, and deepen our sense of connection with ourselves, each other, and our world. We begin to realize that we are never just practicing for ourselves. Transforming ourselves creates echoes in the universe, because as we heal ourselves, we heal each other, and our world. As renowned author Arianna Huffington beautifully puts it, “Living in a state of gratitude is the gateway to grace.” 

    1. Begin by settling the mind and body, taking a seat on a chair, on the floor, or wherever you can sit comfortably upright. Allow a soft smile to rest on your lips, not as a way to paper over how you are feeling, but simply to invite in rest and ease.
    1. Bring your awareness to the simple sensations of breathing. Feel how the breath is supporting you, oxygenating the body with each inhale, releasing stress and toxins with each exhale. Begin to sense the beating of your heart. Become aware of how the heart is supporting you, sending blood carrying oxygen and nutrients to all the trillions of cells in your body. Invite in a feeling of gratitude and kindness toward your breath, your heart, your body.
    1. Begin to feel your body in your seat, and let your awareness expand to include the earth below you, supporting you. Allow yourself to rest into the Earth, to feel held by the Earth. Feel how there is nothing more you need to do in this moment.
    1. Reflect on how the Earth is supporting all beings equally, and that gravity is keeping all beings tethered to the Earth. Reflect on how this planet is connected to a solar system and a vast universe. And that all things—all humans, all animals, the Earth, the sun, and the stars—are composed of the same matter, the same basic particles. We are literally all made of stardust.
    1. Feel the web of life into which we are born, from which we can never fall. Feel how you are part of this web. Nothing is separate.
    1. Feel yourself resting with gratitude in the heart of the universe. Begin to send your good wishes to all beings, gently and silently repeating, “May all beings be peaceful. May all beings be safe and protected. May all beings be happy. May all beings be filled with love and kindness.”
    1. And then recognize that you are contained within the good wishes for all beings. Rest your attention once again on this one being sitting here, and silently direct the good wishes to yourself: “May I be peaceful. May I be safe and protected. May I be happy. May I be filled with love and kindness.”
    1. As you breathe in, you are breathing in this loving-kindness, and as you breathe out, you are sending this loving-kindness out. May all beings here and everywhere dwell with peace. May the Earth dwell in peace. And close by offering: May this practice be of benefit for all beings.

    Excerpted from Good Morning, I Love You:  Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity and Joy by Shauna Shapiro, PhD. Sounds True, June 2022.  Reprinted with permission.

    3) Awaken the Flow of Gratitude in Nature—Georgina Miranda

    Regardless of where I am experiencing nature—at a local city park, perched up high on mountain tops, or swimming in the sea—I’ve found it is always a good time to pause and be present with the gratitude I feel for our inherent connectedness to nature. Our breath is an anchor that can always bring us home. A few deep breaths, connecting with the space we are in, bring home a knowing that there is no separation between us. We need our Grand Mother, the Earth—her air to fill our lungs, her living things to feed us, her awe to keep our souls warm. She needs us too—to look after her, to shift our day-to-day ways of living, to treat her as one of our dearest friends.

    Next time you are in nature, see if you can shift from a state of doing into a state of being. The key difference between exercise and movement is that when you move with the intention of exercise, you quickly enter a state of doing. Movement is free-flowing and allows you to enter a state of being. The benefits are vast when you allow yourself to be one with the nature you choose, connecting and moving with gratitude.

    1. Give yourself permission to be. Go into nature without an agenda or expectations and just to be with it and move with it. If you are struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, or sluggishness, let movement outside help ignite an internal shift. 
    1. Breathe and pay attention. Bring all the attention to your breath, its rhythm, its ability to inspire a reset with each inhale and exhale. Notice the air you are breathing in, the smells, the temperature, the freshness. Let each inhale be an opportunity to connect you deeper with the nature you are in. Let each exhale be an opportunity to let go of anything that is not needed at this moment. 
    1. Breathe and feel deeper. When you’re connected to your breath, what else do you feel? As you take each step, what flows through your body? How does the sun, wind, snow, or rain feel on your skin? What can you hear? While you notice each breath you take, can you start to unite with the space you are in, versus be separate from it? Can you notice you are one with the earth, the air, the water, around you? 
    1. Breathe and open up to gratitude. Look around, and while staying connected to your breath, let your heart open to any gratitude that’s arising in this moment. Gratitude for the pause in the busyness of life and existence…to your body for its willingness to move freely…to this natural setting and the natural gifts from Mother Earth to you…for this moment of well-being…for knowing that this type of movement, state of awareness, and pause all in one is always available to you. 
    1. Surrender. Surrender completely with the help of the beautiful nature around you. Become one with it, one with your breath. Just be and soak in the feeling of liberation that can come from the present moment. 

    4) Counteract Resentment—Barry Boyce

    To begin this gratitude practice, I’d like to start by considering one of the biggest obstacles to gratitude: resentment. We can dress up our resentment with a sophisticated storyline about how others—one, or many, or multitudes—are doing us wrong, but what it simply boils down to is being upset because we’re not getting what we want.

    The world is too complex and multifaceted for us to continually get our way. It’s good to aspire for the best for ourselves and others, while nonetheless remaining committed to the journey more than the satisfaction of achieving a fixed outcome. If everyone gets their way, we can’t have a cooperative world. From time to time, we need to undercut our own perspective and see things from the other side—maybe even from all sides. Gratitude is a practice that can work with the tendency to cling to fixed outcomes and to feel resentful when we don’t get our way. 

    1. Bring to mind something that seems unlikely to change and that you do not accept. Perhaps it’s something that’s happened to you or it’s something that’s going on with a loved one or in the world at large. It can be big or small.
    2. Counter-intuitively say thank you for that. You’re not being thankful for the thing itself, you’re being thankful for the opportunity to let go. To accept how things unfold doesn’t mean we condone bad behavior or indulge in pessimism or martyrdom. Rather, the point is to use gratitude to undercut our resistance to working creatively with difficult situations. 
    3. For about 3 minutes, keep imagining things you resent, that you’re irritated about, things that you have trouble accepting or allowing.Try having an attitude that says, “Thank you for the opportunity to work with this.” When we open to deep gratitude for the opportunity to let go of our grasping to outcomes, we can foster a kind of embryonic openness that can lead to other more outward kinds of gratitude. 
    4. In this next step, let’s be grateful in concentric circles, moving out from our immediate situation, with prompts like the following: I’m grateful to have the necessities of life. I’m grateful to have people to love and to share love with. I’m grateful for friends and the companionship they offer. I’m grateful for the people who serve my needs, who pick up the garbage, take care of the roads, or fix my bicycle. I’m grateful for the people who provide energy and take care of the vast infrastructure that supports society and life. Thank you to the people who sell me food. I’m grateful to health care workers. I’m grateful to the people who are dedicated to keeping me safe. Finally, I’m grateful for the need to encounter those who mean harm, who are tormented by mental and physical pain that causes them to act badly or even violently. While I do not condone purposefully harmful actions, I am grateful that there is a spark of compassion available for those who do harm, and for all of us when we do harm, and the possibility of beneficial change emerging in time. Thank you very much. I’m grateful to share this with you.

    5) Nurture a Felt Sense of Gratitude—Gina Rollo White

    In this practice, we will be connecting ideas and thoughts with bodily sensations. I’ll walk you through all of it. Follow along and do what works for you.

    1. Choose a posture that’s comfortable for you: standing, sitting, or lying down. If you want to close your eyes, you can. Know that at any point, if you feel uncomfortable, you can always open them. If you are standing, sometimes closing your eyes can make you a little wobbly, so you can open them, adjust, and close them again. 
    1. Before we begin, take a nice big inhale. So inhale…and exhale. In this practice, we will be connecting ideas and thoughts with bodily sensations. I’ll walk you through all of it. Follow along and do what works for you. 
    1. Begin by noticing the length of your body. Just noticing the entire length of your body, from your feet all the way up to the top of your head. And bring to mind this idea of length, but also this idea of strength and pride. Feel yourself, standing tall or lengthening long, and connect with the sensation of your feet all the way up to the top of your head, so the entire length of your body is connected with the idea of strength and pride and length. 
    1. Now we’ll move to the back of our body. See if you can imagine what the back of your body looks like—the back of your head, your back, your seat, the back of your feet—and connect that with the idea of the past. Everything that’s behind you, your entire past, is connected with the backs of your shoulder blades, your seat. Maybe you can notice the space in between your shirt and your body, or the space in between your shoulder blades. Just bring to mind the back of your body, and connect it with the past. 
    1. Next, we move to the sides of our body. See if you can imagine the sides of your body from shoulder to shoulder, hip to hip, outside edges of your feet, maybe ear to ear. Think of that as connecting with the outside world, connecting with community. Even raise your arms up and see if you can create a little circle around yourself. Connect the sides of your body with this idea of protecting yourself, so you can create boundaries. But also, if you can, open up and reach your arms really wide, reaching out to your community, to those around you. Notice how you can reach really far and feel connected with those around you, but also create the safety of boundaries, connecting with the sides of your body, your shoulders, your hips, the outside of your feet. 
    1. Take a moment to continue connecting with community by sending thoughts of love and kindness and gratitude toward others. Bring to mind someone or something, maybe a pet, that you have an uncomplicated relationship with, who you feel safe with. As you bring to mind someone who creates safety or something that creates safety, imagine sending these words to them: May you feel love and kindness. May you feel safe and secure. May you feel healthy and strong. 
    1. And now, broaden those kind thoughts to your inner circle or your local community or neighborhood. Bringing to mind your community, send thoughts of love and gratitude: May you feel love and kindness. Imagining. All those people. May you feel safe and secure. 
    1. Continue opening your arms and your circle of love and gratitude. Broadening your arms even more, maybe continuing it out to your nation, to your continent. Imagine all the people and beings on your continent, and then even further out, to the entire world: May you all feel love and kindness. May everyone, every being, every animal feel safe and secure. May you all feel healthy and strong. 
    1. And now, bring your arms in closer to your body. Making that circle smaller and smaller, you can come back to our neighborhood, your community, all the way back to that first person or animal that makes you feel safe and secure. Connect with the outside of your body, the outside of your feet, your hips and shoulders. 
    1. Bring your focus now to your internal world. What’s occurring inside of your body? Notice your heartbeat, your stomach digesting, your lungs as you inhale and exhale. Connect that with the idea of present-moment awareness. What’s occurring right now, in this moment? Your breath. Your heartbeat. And also yourself, connecting your awareness with all that you are. Take a moment to send yourself gratitude and love and kindness. If it’s available to you, put your hands over your heart. 
    1. Think to yourself as you’re standing here in this present moment: May I feel love and kindness. May I feel safe and secure. May I be healthy and strong. May I be happy. Place your hands by your side, and move from the internal once again to the external. From the front of your body, the tips of your toes to your belly, to the outside of your chest, the outside of your shoulders, your face. Connect the front of your body with the idea of forward movement, and with the idea of all that is before you. 
    1. Picture your entire body, connecting all the parts. The front of your body, the sides of your body, the back of your body, internal head to toe. Bringing it all into one thought, one image, and take a moment to send yourself some gratitude. You might say to yourself, Great job. Great job for practicing today. Maybe even put your hands over your heart again and saying, Thank you.
    1. Place your arms by your side, and then if you can, as you inhale, reach your arms up really high, all the way up. As you exhale, lower your arms. If your eyes were closed, you can open them. Just take a moment to look around and take in the colors, the sights, maybe even the sounds. 
    1. Get curious about what you feel right now. What is the quality you feel right now? And then as you close this practice, give yourself one final moment of gratitude, saying to yourself, Thank you. Great job.
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  • Workplace Wellbeing in This Digital Age: Mindful Guidance for Digital Fatigue and Burnout

    Workplace Wellbeing in This Digital Age: Mindful Guidance for Digital Fatigue and Burnout

    It’s 3p.m., and you’ve been at your desk for all or most of the day. Maybe you even worked through lunch, hunched over your keyboard while eating a sandwich. If you paused and tuned into your body, would you notice how your eyes are burning, how your neck and shoulders are tense and achey? Swamped at work, trying to stay on deadline, can you remain focused and calm your frazzled mind—or do you struggle with staying on task?

    Or how about when the workday is over? Maybe you crawl into bed, exhausted—but still can’t sleep through the night. And when you’re away from your office, how often do you remember to unplug and wander screen-free in healing green spaces? 

    All of these are extremely common symptoms and contributors to what we call screen-related stress, digital fatigue, and burnout—and they’re endemic in the workplace. 

    The good news is that you don’t have to keep living this way. We have the option to work more mindfully: by improving our computer station; learning on-the-spot de-stressing techniques; taking nature breaks to recharge; and establishing better tech habits.

    When we get serious about Digital Wellness, we can create healthier workplaces, be kinder to our bodies and minds, and engage in activities that actually replenish our energy and combat burnout when we’re not at work.

    Our Digital Wellness Best Practices: 4 Easy-to-Use Tips

    I’ve been fortunate to work with Dr. Michael Rich, Director of Harvard University’s Digital Wellness Lab, in developing these research-backed strategies for greater digital wellness. Dr. Rich contributed to our book Less Screen More Green, and we were truly blessed to have the late Dr. Jane Goodall write the foreword.

    The reality is, today’s digital workplace was not designed for our wellbeing, as you probably know all too well. It’s clear that we need to be intentional about fostering our wellbeing more than ever. Here are four essential places to start.

    1. Check Your Workstation Ergonomics

    How your workstation is set up has a significant impact on you and your work. Pamela Dempster, a Certified Professional Ergonomist and collaborator in our programs, cautions: “Laptops can be a health issue as they promote more neck bending/cervical flexing which should be avoided for extended periods of time. Also, poorly designed workstations, and the current trend of ‘hot desking’ [where workstations are continually rotated], significantly increase workplace stress.” So let’s look more closely at how a workstation should be set up to limit stress and promote better skeletal, muscular, nervous-system, and eye health.

    First, a good chair with lumbar (lower back) support and a good armrest is key. Supportive armrests are critical for upper body/upper extremity health, and they’re best if padded with soft foam underlay. Your screen should be an arm’s length away and at eye level so you are looking straight ahead into the upper part of the screen, not looking down and straining your neck. Monitors at eye height promote neutral head/neck positioning. This promotes downward eye gazing which is healthier for our near-sighted visual system and its ability to focus better on what it’s reading.

    As you probably know, staring at blue-lit screens and unhealthy tech habits, including poor ergonomics, increase our stress levels and our exhaustion. They drain our physical and mental fuel and contribute to burnout. To support eye health, invest in blue-light filtering glasses to ease eye strain, and keep lubricating eyedrops at your desk and remember to blink. (Yes, we “forget” to blink when we’re glued to screens!)

    2. Do Regular Deskercises

    It’s important to keep the body moving during the day, even when you’re right at your desk. This keeps us from developing muscle strain and repetitive injuries like “Tech Neck.” Regular gentle movement practices like Chi Gong, and intentional practices like mindfulness meditation and breathing exercises (yes, we “forget” to breathe, as well) help relax our bodies and calm and focus our minds. This not only increases ease and productivity at work, but also helps us sleep much better at night.

    Turn away from your screen frequently to refocus your gaze and take some deep breaths for on-the-spot relaxation and recharging. One of the easiest deskercises we recommend is called 20-20-20: Set a timer, and every 20 minutes, shift your gaze away from your screen—even better if it’s out a window. Look at least 20 feet away, for at least 20 seconds, and do some deep breathing.

    One of our Digital Wellness participants reported that since doing the Mindful Tech program, she’s rearranged her desk and computer setup, relieving tension in her neck and low back. She now also takes regular breaks to do the 20-20-20 practice and stand up and stretch. “It’s made me feel better with the amount of screen time in my work, and it’s non-negotiable.”

    3. The Nature Remedy: A Daily Dose of Nearby Nature

    In a world that is tech-obsessed, noisy, and chaotic, it’s so easy to forget that “nature” is not something out there in the woods. It’s not separate from us. We humans are part of nature! (Although this isn’t always evident by how recklessly we treat our environment.) Being in the forest, a city park, a patch of grass, or just pausing to turn inward for a moment and take some lungfuls of fresh air is coming home to our true selves, in some way.

    We call this intentional practice The Nature Remedy, and it is the ground of our workplace wellness program.

    Scientific evidence by researchers including Dr. Qing Li, the Scientific Advisor for The Forest Bathing Institute, supports the benefits of mindfulness in nature for many physical and mental health issues including: hypertension, anxiety, depression, empathy fatigue, and burnout. This Japanese practice of Shinrin Yoku is emerging as a key strategy for workplace wellness and is practiced by many eminent health professionals themselves.

    Our co-author Dr. Rich is an advocate of the healing power of nature as a key aspect of workplace wellbeing and was surprised by the effect of Shinrin Yoku: “Recently, at a conference in Aspen, I had my first experience with Forest Bathing. Surprisingly, it may seem that nothing is happening; there we were under the canopy of trees just focusing on specific senses. Yet somehow it is everything as we paused, slowed down, and listened to the trees. Most of this digital generation are so used to being hyper-stimulated that it takes them time to ease into the quiet that is so key to their mental health. Gearing down, being in nature, without our phones, is truly beneficial for us all.”

    Dr. Rich explains what is happening in this simple moment. Forest Bathing works, because when we shift from our habitually speedy and cluttered mind, this can have a profound impact on resetting our nervous system. We’re shifting from the sympathetic (stress) mode, to the parasympathetic (relaxation) mode. The mental health benefits are similar to clearing your mind in meditation. You’re connecting with an inner stillness that is usually drowned out by the noise of our highly urbanized workplaces.

    Remember, it’s important to do this screen free. Screens disrupt our sense of connection to time and place and our bodies, which limits our ability to settle into the quietness.

    We’ve found that this intentional reconnection with nature is resonating, even with people whose jobs require them to spend entire days on screens. One IT professional reported this experience after taking our Digital Wellness program and trying our Nearby Nature tip: “Instead of moaning about not being able to get out for a long hike, I take frequent breaks. Just walk around the block without checking my phone or listening to music. That’s a big change for me! I am seriously hooked, worse than my caffeine habit. Our boss is happy we’re taking fewer sick days. It’s a good reminder to do some of my mindfulness stuff outdoors when I can, without my phone.”

    4. Sleep Strategies

    The quality and duration of your sleep has an immense impact on your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. We need it for good immune function, to process thoughts and emotions, and to repair our bodies and balance our nervous system. But we don’t always make the connection between our daily screentime, digital fatigue, burnout, and our ability to get the very sleep we need to recover.

    One of the most helpful things you can do is just unplug at least one hour before bedtime. Leave your phone powered off; get a battery alarm clock to use instead. As you may know, there’s scientific evidence that wireless radiation affects our sleep, so you will also sleep much better in this tech-free sanctuary if you also turn off your WiFi. Avoid all caffeine in the late afternoon and evening, and consider natural supplements such as calcium, magnesium and low-dose melatonin. When you can’t get to sleep, fussing about not sleeping generally tends to make things worse. Instead, doing a sleep meditation or deep breathing can often help you sink into a deep rest.

    Reclaiming Our Right to Workplace Wellbeing

    Inertia is a strange thing. It’s easy to assume, just because most workplaces, by default, encourage unhealthy daily routines and habits, that this is “just the way it is.” The truth is that it doesn’t have to be this way at all. We can reclaim our right to workplace wellbeing.

    We’re also seeing positive signs every day that change is coming: A significant number of businesses and organizations are waking up to how crucial it is to have employees take care of themselves if they want workplaces that can actually function.

    If you’re inspired to take action for your own wellness, please try these practices for yourself, and check out the resources we offer.

    Details about our program: www.DigitalWellnessPrograms.com

    Our book: www.LessScreenMoreGreen.org

    Our nonprofit: www.GlobalHealthAlliance.ca

    More from Pamela Dempster and healthy ergonomics: www.DempsterWellness.com

    Details about The Forest Bathing Institute: www.tfb.institute 



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  • Henna as Mindfulness: A Creative Practice for Calm and Connection

    Henna as Mindfulness: A Creative Practice for Calm and Connection

    In this practice, mindful teacher Rose Felix Cratsley invites kids and caregivers to explore henna as an art form and as a gentle mindfulness activity that nurtures stillness, creativity, and cultural appreciation.

    A Mindful Ritual at Your Fingertips

    Children are naturally drawn to creative expression. The process of making and applying henna slows us down, encouraging presence, sensory awareness, and loving connection through touch and design.

    Rooted in South Asian, Middle Eastern, and African cultures, henna (or mehndi) is a sacred ritual of celebration, storytelling, and connection. This practice invites us into mindful moments: as we mix the paste, trace the lines, feel the coolness on our skin, and observe our thoughts. Whether it’s a quiet moment shared between caregiver and child, or at a community gathering rich with color and conversation, henna becomes a living reminder: we are here, together, in this moment.

    Henna Mindfulness Practice

    1. Begin with Breath

    Invite your child or group to take three slow, deep breaths. Feel the belly rise and fall. Notice how your body begins to soften. You might say: “We are here, we are calm, we are ready to create together.”

    2. Mix with Intention

    Mix 2 tablespoons of natural henna powder with lemon juice until a smooth paste forms. Optionally add a drop of essential oil and a pinch of sugar. Stir slowly and notice the texture and scent. As you mix, set a quiet intention: peace, joy, strength—whatever quality you want to hold in your design.

    3. Trace the Moment

    Before applying henna on the skin, practice simple shapes on paper. Spirals, dots, leaves, hearts—anything your child imagines. Encourage slowing down: 

    • How does it feel to trace that line?
    • What happens to your breath as you move your hand?

    4. Apply with Care

    Using a cone or small brush, apply a simple design to the hand or wrist. Notice the sensation of the cool paste, the stillness of the body, and the breath anchoring the experience.

    *Caregivers can gently apply henna to children’s hands, offering this as a moment of love, bonding, and grounding.

    5. Rest and Reflect

    Once the design is complete, let it dry naturally. Use this time for quiet reflection or journaling. Invite conversation:

    • What story does your henna design tell?
    • How did it feel to go slowly and focus?
    • What do you want to remember and cherish from this moment?

    6. Close with Gratitude and intention

    As the henna sets and your breath softens, invite a final moment of stillness. You might say together:

    “We are present. We are creative. We are calm. We welcome peace.”

    Let these words settle into your heart, mind, and body, like the design resting on your skin. This simple affirmation becomes a living mantra, carrying the essence of the practice forward: grounded in mindfulness, rich with cultural meaning, and full of possibility.

    While henna fades in time, the peace we create through these practices becomes cherished memories.

    Its Significance

    Henna, as a mindfulness practice, invites children into their senses, their heritage, their bodies, and their relationships with care. For caregivers, it’s an opportunity to share calm and culture in one breath.

    Rooted in tradition and adaptable for all ages, this ritual offers connection across generations—where stories, symbols, and emotions can live on the skin and in the heart.



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  • Foster Forgiveness With This 10-Minute Guided Meditation

    Foster Forgiveness With This 10-Minute Guided Meditation

    Explore this mindfulness practice to foster forgiveness and let go of the tendency to add to suffering during challenging situations.

    Two monks are walking down the road. They arrive at a muddy stream crossing, and a well-dressed woman declares without introduction, “Don’t just stand there. Someone carry me across this mess.“

    Without pause, the older monk lifts her across. She says nothing, not even a thank you.

    The two monks walk all day. The whole time, the younger one stews in his mind—How could he pick her up? We’re not supposed to touch women, or even talk to them. And she was so rude, someone should say something to her, she didn’t deserve our help.

    Finally, arriving at the inn for dinner, he can’t hold himself back. “What were you thinking?” he asks his friend. “She was nasty, and you broke the rules, and she didn’t even say thank you.”

    The older monk smiles gently and replies. “Wow, I put that woman down hours ago, but you’ve been carrying her all this time!”

    Why We Carry Anger and Resentment

    So what does that mean in real life? We make mistakes. Other people make mistakes. We do things to others. Others do things to us. There’s an actual experience that can be trivial or even traumatic. We add to the suffering with judgment, anger, and blame. It’s sometimes referred to as adding a second arrow after being struck by a first. Something unpleasant happens, but then we add more to the experience.

    With forgiveness, we make amends when needed but let go of the extra baggage. We give ourselves the same benefit of the doubt we’d offer a close friend.

    Forgiveness isn’t the same as condoning ourselves or anyone else for misbehavior. But we so easily hold ourselves infinitely responsible, often for experiences utterly out of our control or from decades past. With forgiveness, we make amends when needed but let go of the extra baggage. We give ourselves the same benefit of the doubt we’d offer a close friend.

    On the other hand, we sometimes allow someone else to influence our lives long after they’ve gone in a similar fashion. Another driver cuts us off in traffic, putting us in danger, and then speeds off. The driver arrives at brunch and relaxes, but we make our own coffee break bitter dwelling in our own anger. It’s a concept that holds across larger situations too. Anger and resentment simmer and grow, while compassionate resolve allows us to address what needs addressing without slinging additional arrows.

    A Forgiveness Meditation to Let Go of Added Suffering

    1. Find yourself a comfortable posture, or take a moment lying on the floor, or a bed.
    2. Bring your attention to the physical sensation of breathing, noting whatever is grabbing your attention, or whatever you’re feeling now, and without judgment, bringing your attention back to the rising and falling of your breath.
    3. Picture something that comes to mind that you judge yourself for. Maybe you feel regret, or irritation, or sadness. Notice how it feels even bringing it to mind. Then focus on these three phrases, not forcing anything but setting an intention: I forgive myself for not understanding. I forgive myself for making mistakes. I forgive myself for causing pain and suffering to myself and others.
    4. Bring your attention back again and repeat the phrases. For a few moments instead of the breath using these phrases as a focus for your attention. This type of practice may become too painful. At any time, without judging yourself, come back and focus on the breath. Allow yourself to settle and return when you’re ready, now or maybe some time in the future.
    5. Our mind naturally holds onto instances where we feel mistreated by others. There may be experiences that were entirely wrong or traumatic or that concretely require our attention or action. At the same time, we can practice avoiding the second arrow. I forgive you for not understanding. I forgive you for making mistakes. I forgive you for causing pain and suffering to me and to others. Letting go of the tendency to add resentment and judgment and everything related to challenging and unpleasant situations. Again, if it’s too much to consider, return to breathing, or if you prefer, focusing on compassion for yourself instead.
    6. Practices of this kind can be quite challenging, so in these last few moments, on each in-breath, noticing and accepting whatever you feel right now. On each out-breath, as you would for a close friend, offering yourself relief, or freedom, or strength, or whatever first comes to mind.

    Forgiveness doesn’t mean being passive or not taking action. It doesn’t mean standing down when we need to protect ourselves or someone else from harm. Do what needs to be done—that might mean taking a pause, settling the mind, and trying to see things as clearly as possible before taking skillful action. Continue to practice forgiveness, over and over again, letting go of whatever holds you back.



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  • Do I Need to Meditate to Be Mindful?

    Do I Need to Meditate to Be Mindful?

    Ed Halliwell explores a common question asked by those new to mindfulness meditation: Do I need to meditate to be mindful?

    One of the most common questions I’m asked by people wondering if mindfulness is for them is: Do I need to meditate to be mindful?

    To be fair, there’s often a subtext behind the inquiry: most mindfulness courses ask participants to practice for up to 45 minutes a day, the suggestion being that this will be a vital part of the learning process. Forty-five minutes a day seems a lot of work for most people, especially in a culture where sitting still and “doing nothing” for any time at all is unusual. If mindfulness just means paying attention, why can’t I do that without having to meditate? Can’t I just decide to notice things a bit more?

    Ask yourself this: can you just decide to be good at tennis?

    Well, ask yourself this: can you just decide to be good at tennis? Or speak French? Or play the piano? While some of us might have more of an aptitude for learning skills like these, they still have to be practiced. We have to put some effort in. Evidence from the clinical and neuroscientific studies of mindfulness suggests that paying attention is an art to be cultivated in just the same way—we can develop our capacity for awareness through training. It’s also what meditators down the ages have reported.

    The more we do something, the more we’re likely to continue to do it, and to do it well—this is how habits form, and skills are acquired. So it makes sense that the more we practice meditation—the art of paying attention—the more mindful we will find ourselves.

    Moving From the Head to Embodiment

    Perhaps one of the disadvantages of the gradual shift away from the use of the word meditation and towards the word mindfulness is that meditation conveys more of a sense of this being a practice, and not just a given attribute. “Deciding to be mindful” is something that comes from the head, a thought, whereas “practicing meditation” brings more of a sense of embodiment with it. If we want our mindfulness to be something we are, more than just a thought of something we’d like to be, it seems we need to cultivate it through meditation.

    Lots of studies suggest that engaging in periods of meditation shifts our brain, body, and experience in seemingly beneficial ways. What’s less clear is the effect of meditation practice over a period of time on those changes—is it this or something else that leads to the benefits seen? In other words: we know meditation works, and we know mindfulness works, but we’re still understanding the mechanisms behind how meditation helps mindfulness to work better.

    Tradition, logic, and some strong scientific indicators say the meditation practice is key, but we still can’t be quite sure. Indeed, one review of the impact of practicing meditation during a mindfulness course found much less of a link between practice time and results than received wisdom might have predicted. While there is plenty of evidence suggesting a causal link, it’s early days in the research literature, and it would be good to see some studies which compared the effect of mindfulness courses with (and without) a home practice component. For now, the jury’s out on just how important formal meditation is to cultivating mindfulness.

    Accepting the Gift, Choosing the Practice

    Today, as I meditated at lunchtime in the churchyard outside our house, I wondered at the magnificent storm clouds billowing low across the hills on the horizon, felt waves of cascading energy flow through my body as the busyness of my morning—and my mind—subsided into moments of inner quiet, letting go into a grace of appreciation at having the senses to experience such a scene. I felt content, tired, a bit wet (raindrops on the grass below) and far more present than when I’d sat down to practice.

    Whatever the effect of meditation on my general mindfulness and well-being, experiences like that—the sense of opening into a vivid and vibrant aliveness—feel precious enough to be worth a lot by themselves. Anything else I’ll take as a bonus.

    This blog post originally appeared on Mindful.org in July 2012.



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  • How to Beat Creative Blocks at Work

    How to Beat Creative Blocks at Work

    Hit a wall at work? This quick video shares one piece of advice to help you beat creative blocks and generate fresh ideas.

    It’s Monday afternoon and maybe that second cup of coffee isn’t getting your brain geared quite the way you expected it to (although maybe another three will be okay, according to a Harvard neuroscientist.)

    When you’ve hit a wall at work, this video from New York Magazine‘s Science of Us suggests it’s time to go into tinker-mode. Research on creative problem solving shows people don’t spend enough time in this phase. The solution? Keep at it. People come up with better solutions the longer they spend working on them.


    Tinkering is key—the brain has “leaky filters,” as science columnist Sharon Begley writes. When we give ourselves the time, disparate items can sift together to form new combinations: the essence of creativity. “Short of a personality or brain transplant, you can maximize your inherent creativity by sheer perseverance.”  

    “Original ideas tend to be remote,” Mark Runco, professor of creativity studies at the University of Georgia and founder of the Creativity Research Journal argues, which means that the first 10 uses of string you think of will likely be commonplace, but if you push yourself, the next 10 will include some quite creative ones.

    The upshot? When it comes to creative blocks, if original ideas come late in the creative process, he points out, we should give ourselves time and space to come up with those “remote” ideas—time for our leaky filters to allow notions that have never made each other’s acquaintance to come together and undergo a kind of alchemy.



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  • A 12-Minute Meditation to Meet the Body In Pain

    A 12-Minute Meditation to Meet the Body In Pain

    This week, Christiane Wolf offers a guided practice to meet your own body in pain and relieve that sense of isolation by internally connecting with others who understand your experience.

    Having chronic pain often feels incredibly lonely. You might not know anybody else who has the same condition. In addition, most people you’re close to, even though they might be well-intentioned, might not understand what you’re going through.

    But the fact is that probably thousands and thousands of people all over the world know exactly what you’re feeling. In this meditation, Christiane Wolf offers a guided practice to meet your own body in pain and relieve that sense of isolation by internally connecting with others who could relate to, have empathy for, and care deeply about your experience. 

    A Meditation to Meet the Body In Pain

    Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.

    1. Start by finding a comfortable position, or as comfortable as possible. You can lie down for this meditation or sit in a chair. You can close your eyes or just soften your gaze, whatever feels best to you in this moment. If you’re sitting, place your feet on the ground. Feel the solid ground under your feet, or maybe have a sense of the floor or the carpet through your shoes or bare feet. Let your back be straight and upright, if that is possible. Lean against the back of the chair and feel the support of that.
    2. Allow the body to relax, if that is possible. Maybe the jaw, the shoulder, the belly. Take a few deep slow breaths and feel the sensations of the breath in the body, like the chest or maybe the belly. See if you can release a little more tension with each exhalation.
    3. Now, notice any amount of pain that you’re in right now, either physically or emotionally. No need to be specific here, just getting a broad sense of what you’re carrying with this pain, with this condition. As a first step, see if it might be possible to acknowledge how hard and difficult it is to experience this pain, to have this pain and to take care of the pain. If it feels right to you, you could say something to yourself like, This is hard. It is so rough to feel this way. Use words that you would find helpful to hear from a dear friend who really gets what you’re going through.
    4. If you like, repeat this a few times. See if you can really listen to yourself saying this and meaning these words. It might feel good to hear these words, or maybe you notice yourself moving a little away and having a hard time accepting this. Whatever your experience is, it’s okay. There is no right or wrong way to do this. 
    5. Having chronic pain often feels lonely. You might not know anybody else who has the same condition. Most people you’re close to, even though they might be well-intentioned, might not understand what you’re going through. But the fact is that probably thousands and thousands of people all over the world know exactly what you’re feeling. Because they do, too. And they might even suffer from the same condition as you do.
    6. Now, in your mind’s eye, invite all these people into your awareness. Maybe as a few people, maybe as a big group, all standing with you or being with you in solidarity with this pain. I personally like to imagine them at my shoulders, reaching back and back. They get me. They know exactly how I feel. They’re feeling the same thing or have felt it before. I don’t have to explain or defend anything, because they already understand. 
    7. Keep practicing this in a way here that makes the most sense to you. Consider what makes it easy or maybe just possible to connect with this idea that there are truly so many people out there who get you, who get this pain. You’re not alone with this. If you notice the mind wandering off, just gently keep bringing it back. Allow this sense of your inner support group.
    8. When you’re ready, allow the image to dissolve. Take another few deeper and longer breaths, longer on the exhale than the inhale. Bring the meditation to an end by starting to move and stretch the body in any way that feels good. Open your eyes if you had them closed. 

    Thank you for your practice today. 



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  • Why Mindfulness Helps Us Feel Good About Helping

    Why Mindfulness Helps Us Feel Good About Helping

    People often use the words empathy and compassion interchangeably—and certainly they share important qualities. But there is a subtle difference between empathy and compassion, and studies show that mindful attention might be key to making sure that our efforts to help are coming from a healthy, aligned place. Here’s a deeper look at how mindful qualities like present-moment attention can help us genuinely be of greater service to others, and how mindfulness can help us feel good about helping.

    People naturally tend to empathize with others, report C. Daryl Cameron and Barbara Fredrickson in the January issue of the journal Mindfulness. But empathy can go wrong when it leads to distress. We might help out of guilt, obligation, or co-dependence. Or, the help might cause resentment, which could lead us to avoid helping people in the future. Or sometimes, in the absence of strong boundaries, we might unknowingly absorb the feelings of someone in trouble, and if we can’t deal with those feelings of suffering, we might turn away altogether.

    There is another possible response: compassion, which leads people to try to alleviate distress in others.

    The Way to Healthier Helping

    As the authors speculate, “Helping should be most common among people who are able to maximize compassion while minimizing distress.” Previous research has found that cultivating mindfulness—the moment-to-moment awareness of thoughts, feelings, and surroundings—can lead to greater compassion. But what specific components of mindfulness predict real-world helping behavior? In other words, what skills could we develop that would make us more likely to help each other out?

    The study examined two mindful traits—a focus on the present moment (aka, “present-focused attention”) and a non-judgmental acceptance of thoughts and experiences (“non-judgmental acceptance”). Cameron and Fredrickson assessed the mindfulness of 313 adults, asking if, for example, they “pay attention to how my emotions affect my thoughts and behaviors” or often criticize themselves “for having irrational or inappropriate emotions.”

    The researchers confirmed their hypothesis: Present-focused attention and non-judgmental acceptance both predicted more helping behavior … Mindful participants were more likely to experience emotions like compassion, joy, or elevation while giving help. That could mean that they just felt better when helping others, which could lead them to engage in more helping behavior in general.

    Next, the survey asked if they had recently helped someone out. If they had, participants answered questions about how they felt while helping. Did they feel positive emotions like gratitude, hopefulness, inspiration, or joy? Or did they have negative ones, like irritation, contempt, disgust, distaste, guilt, or nervousness?

    In analyzing the answers, the researchers found that 85 percent of participants had engaged in some kind of helping behavior during the previous week, like listening to a friend’s problems, babysitting, giving someone a car ride, donating to charity, or volunteering. In the process, they uncovered some incidental but interesting facts:

    • Men were marginally less likely than women to report engaging in helping behavior;
    • Age did not predict helping; and
    • Participants with higher income were more likely to report helping others.

    However, the biggest predictor of helping behavior had nothing to do with these demographic traits. In fact, the researchers confirmed their hypothesis: Present-focused attention and non-judgmental acceptance both predicted more helping behavior. This link between mindfulness and helping might be traced to the fact that the mindful participants were more likely to experience emotions like compassion, joy, or elevation while giving help. That could mean that they just felt better when helping others, which could lead them to engage in more helping behavior in general.

    What Makes Us Want to Keep On Helping?

    The study also revealed a scientifically important nuance: Participants who scored higher in present-focused attention were more likely to experience positive emotions—and participants high in non-judgmental acceptance experienced fewer negative emotions, like stress, but weren’t necessarily more likely to experience more positive emotions. In other words, acceptance may only clear the way for helping; it’s the present-focus that could actually make the helping an emotionally rewarding experience. Together, the takeaway seems to be that approaching these situations with mindfulness helps us feel good, or at least better, about extending ourselves in service.

    Insights from this study have obvious practical implications for teaching helping behavior to children. This line of research could also help people in helping professions who are at risk for burnout, or people whose mental illnesses make it hard for them to connect with others.

    The study also carries hugely helpful implications for the rest of us, because anyone can feel worn down by helping other people. There’s an invitation to look at our motivations for stepping in, our boundaries and limitations and need for real rest. And there’s an opportunity to enter into opportunities for service with deeper compassionate attention and an open heart. Isn’t it nice to know there are ways we can help ourselves feel better when we do something nice for someone else?

    A version of this article originally appeared on Greater Good, the online magazine of UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, one of Mindful’s partners. To view the original article, click here.



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