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  • Being Courageous About Change: Mindful Guidance on the Proactive Pivot

    Being Courageous About Change: Mindful Guidance on the Proactive Pivot

    Being Proactive

    Proactive pivoting is one of the hardest things, because it implies that we’re making a change before we absolutely have to make a change.

    We really don’t like change. We’re creatures of habit. We like our routines, and we like the familiar. When it comes to proactive pivoting, we need to conjure up a certain amount of strength, and faith that what we’re about to do will work out for us.

    Proactive pivoting is about getting ahead of change, seeing that change needs to come, and mustering the courage and the strength to make that change.

    We’re often more accustomed to crisis pivoting. This is when we have to pivot—when things happen legally, medically, relationally, or vocationally that require our immediate, all-hands-on-deck attention.

    Proactive pivoting is different. It is about getting ahead of change, seeing that change needs to come, and mustering the courage and the strength to make that change.

    Loss Aversion

    There are a few fears and obstacles that can get in the way when we’re thinking about pivoting. We all have our go-to place when it’s time for a change—the uncertainty, or the fear of failure, the unknown. Whatever those fears are, we all have them.

    The science of loss aversion shows that even if the change will bring us something equal to, or even a little better than what we currently have, we still resist.

    There’s also something that can get in our way called loss aversion. It turns out that even if the change will bring us something equal to, or even a little better than what we currently have, we still resist.

    The science indicates that in order to make a change, we need to perceive that what we’re going into is twice as positive as what we currently experience. Keeping in mind that experiencing this loss aversion can be very helpful to us in times of pivoting—just knowing that is a phenomenon, and being aware of it, can help us to face it.

    A Personal Example of Proactive Pivoting

    Here’s a personal example of a proactive pivot that occurred in my family.

    My mom was living in Janesville, Wisconsin, where she was born and where she had lived her entire life. She was 85, and she decided to move to Dallas, Texas.

    She was in perfectly fine health and has four children. I’m the oldest of four, and she decided to move before anything happened in her life that would force her to make a change. She was very familiar with her community—she knew her neighbor, she had grown up there, she was driving a car, and she had a very nice life there. But she was able to muster the strength to make a big change at her age. Now four years later, she’s still very healthy and is very grateful that years earlier had made that change.

    Deciding Not to Pivot is Okay, Too

    Sometimes change is genuinely not the right choice in a given moment, and that’s okay.

    We can become present with what our current situation is, assess it, and maybe determine that in the grander scheme of things, it’s not the time for us to pivot.

    In these moments, we don’t have to feel regret or guilt because we actually didn’t go through with it.

    The key is that we consider pivoting when things in our life indicate that would be best for our well-being, and if it’s not, then we can gently surrender.

    We are generally more skilled at crisis pivoting than proactive pivoting, so it isn’t always easy to know what the right thing to do is in the moment. Being compassionately present with ourselves in the process is key—including in the moments that we decide not to make a change, or in the moments when we decide to stay or move on, and we’re not sure.

    Mindfully Reflecting on Your Own Actions

    Think about a time in your life when you did proactively pivot.

    • What brought on the moment when you knew you had to consider change?
    • What did you do to prepare?
    • What helped you make your decision?
    • How did you feel about the change after you made it?
    • What were you most grateful for? What did you learn?

    Life is change, and change is constant. Mindfulness builds our courage, because it helps us pay more attention to our real lives as they’re happening—and that, in turn, helps us to discern when it’s time to change directions.



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  • A 12-Minute Meditation to Approach the World With a “Don’t-Know Mind”

    A 12-Minute Meditation to Approach the World With a “Don’t-Know Mind”

    We can find strength and resilience in familiarity—and use those feelings to explore the unfamiliar.

    At the beginning of every meditation practice that I teach, I offer up a little bit of instruction for the posture, so that you can experience this practice as being as supportive as possible to your body.

    A Meditation to Approach the World With a “Don’t-Know Mind” 

    1. I would like to invite you to come to a place that is truly comfortable and supportive to your practice. For some of you, this may mean a seated position on a chair, on a sofa, or even on some cushions on the floor. This might mean standing up, if that’s more supportive to your back and your posture. And for some of you, this may mean lying down on the ground. Please take a moment to come to whatever place is going to feel most compassionate to your body.
    2. Some of you may want to fully close your eyes for this meditation practice. And others may want to employ what I like to call a “soft gaze,” which is looking down at the ground about two inches in front of the knees or the feet.
    3. When you’ve settled into a comfortable position, I would love to invite you to take three deep breaths with me. As you’re taking those three deep breaths, you may notice that your body may begin to relax naturally. You may start to feel a little bit more deeply connected to whatever place makes contact with the earth. For some of you that’s going to be your feet, and for others that may be your back. Notice whatever place comes into contact with the earth in this moment.
    4. Begin to draw your attention and awareness to the connection between your body and the earth. It might feel beneficial at this point to take another deep inhale and exhale here. When you’re finished, return your breath back to a natural cadence and rhythm.
    5. You may notice the quality of the sound in the room that you’re in. Maybe there are some ambient noises that are coming from inside of wherever you are, whatever building you’re in. Or maybe there are sounds that are coming from outside. Please feel free to make these a part of your practice.
    6. Begin to draw your awareness to the bottoms of your feet, wherever they are landing on the earth. What do you notice? Does the right foot or the left foot feel slightly heavier than the other? As you notice the difference between the right and the left foot, perhaps you might also become aware of other micro-adjustments inside of your body.
    7. You may notice that the mind continues to produce thoughts, and that’s OK. The point of a meditation practice is not necessarily to stop thinking the thoughts that you are thinking, but rather to just be aware of the thoughts as they flow through the body and the mind. As you draw your awareness to your thoughts, you can also bring your awareness to the rhythm of your breath as it flows in and out of your body.
    8. I would like to invite you to bring your attention to the muscles of the belly and notice if they’ve been drawn in a little bit tightly towards the spine. Is it possible to invite a sense of relaxation, and even vulnerability, to the muscles of the belly by allowing them to be soft? Don’t worry, no one is watching. How does it feel when you invite a sense of softness and relaxation to the belly? How does the rest of the body respond?
    9. While your attention is here, you might begin to imagine a person, place, animal, or object that is deeply familiar to you. Perhaps this animal, person, place, or object reminds you of what it feels like to be home. Can you bring them into the room with you right now?
    10. Notice if that invitation has an impact on your breath, as it rises and falls from your chest. You might even feel a bit more safe in the space of this practice as you invite the image of what reminds you of being home, of being held.
    11. What is familiar to you, deeply familiar, about this person, animal, place, or object, that makes you feel as though you really know them? What is the feeling of knowing? What is the feeling of familiarity, and how does it land inside of the body? The invitation is to bring your attention back to the breath anytime that you notice yourself getting caught up in the story.
    12. Now, bring to mind an image of something that reminds you of what it means to be strong and resilient. Maybe there’s someone who you really look up to, or a place you’ve been that made you feel truly strong and resilient when you were there. Can you bring into your mind’s awareness the embodied sensations of being strong and resilient? Does your body make slight changes and shifts as you recall how this feels?
    13. Now we’re going to do a little bit of experimenting. Hopefully this will be fun. There’s a term called “don’t know mind” that is sometimes used in meditation to invoke a sense of curiosity.
    14. What is it like to approach the world with a “don’t know mind?” You may find that this is a bit of a contrast to the feeling of familiarity that we began to explore in the beginning of this practice. The feeling of familiarity is the feeling of, “Oh yes, I know. I know this person. I know this place. I know this animal or this object. They are deeply familiar to me.” Perhaps the way we view things, which are seemingly familiar to us, can begin to shift and change ever so slightly when we apply the pure curiosity of “don’t know mind.” How does that land in the body? This exploration of not knowing, of not being quite certain?
    15. At this point in your practice, you may notice if there are places in the body that begin to contract when we explore the feeling of “don’t know mind,” and that’s OK. This is the body’s intelligence. Can we unite this exploration of “don’t know mind” with those same sensations of strength and resilience, so that we know that no matter what, when we encounter moments of uncertainty and not-knowing that we have all the strength and resilience inside of our body to meet with that moment? What does it feel like to meet strength and resilience with not-knowing? Can we be truly curious about what arises in our awareness with this practice? Let’s take just a few moments in silence together now and explore the way that this feels.
    16. When you’re ready please bring your entire body into your mind’s eye and notice the difference between the way the body feels now and the way the body felt when you first entered into this space of practice. Take the time to notice the way the feet feel slightly different in the way they connect to the earth.
    17. Let’s all take one more deep breath in here.
    18. When you’re ready, at your own pace and rhythm, please begin to, ever so slowly and gently, open up the eyes, without staring at anything in particular. Allow color and texture to flood back into your mind’s awareness.
       
    19. From here we can begin the process of reorienting to the room that we’re in. Gently begin to turn and rotate the head and the neck, and take in the colors and textures of the space you are in. Notice if there’s anything new or different or alive in the space. What has changed since you started this practice?



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  • A Meditation to Tap Into Your Agency When Things Are Chaotic & Uncertain

    A Meditation to Tap Into Your Agency When Things Are Chaotic & Uncertain

    Feeling overwhelmed can be so uncomfortable that we often want to rush to make it go away. Here’s a practice to slow down, meet yourself, tap into your agency, and connect with clarity.

    We often treat experiences like restlessness, uncertainty, or the overwhelm of difficult emotions as a problem to be solved. And of course, it’s normal to want relief. So how can you tap into your agency, even when things are swirling around you and you’re not sure how to move forward?

    Today, teacher Chery Vigder Brause leads a guided practice that’s centered around meeting ourselves exactly where we are. In that pause, where we encounter ourselves without trying to fix anything, even if just for a moment, we actually create a space where we can get clarity on how to respond to ourselves, others, and the world.

    Cheryl Vigder Brause is a nationally recognized mindfulness and meditation teacher, writer and speaker, specializing in leading corporate clients, schools, and individuals across the country in programs and meditations on stress management, boosting happiness, and living their best lives. She is the Co-Founder of Pause to be Present, a mindfulness and meditation studio.  To learn more about Pause to be Present’s programs, visit www.pausetobepresent.com.

    A Meditation to Tap Into Your Agency When Things Are Chaotic & Uncertain

    Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.

    1. Today we will exercise our power to pause, to take a breath, to down-regulate our nervous system, and to choose how we want to meet this moment. Let’s begin. I invite you to gently arrive in this moment, where so often busy going, doing, and moving, trying to get somewhere else, instead of arriving exactly where we are. 
    2. Arrive fully in this moment. Find a comfortable posture or position with your body. You can be seated or lying down for this meditation. Get comfortable. Feel free to move a bit until you can settle the body into a comfortable and supported posture. If you’d like, you can gently close your eyes or simply lower your gaze. 
    3. Take a slow, deep breath, breathing in through the nose. And a long steady exhale through the mouth. Notice how that feels. Notice how it feels to simply stop all that forward momentum and simply allow yourself to fully arrive in this moment. Again, take a nice slow breath in, feeling that air fill your lungs and torso. And then slowly and fully exhale. Feeling the release of air and the release of tension in the body. One more slow, deep breath together, breathing in fully, and breathing out. 
    4. Remind yourself that in this moment and in this meditation, there is nothing you need to do right now. There’s no way you have to be in this moment and nothing you need to fix or change or accomplish. 
    5. I invite you to simply pause to be. Rest in the fullness of this moment just as you are. Notice how that feels to simply be here. Give yourself permission to simply be present. 
    6. Notice what’s here for you. Are there sounds around you? If so, simply notice them. Can you feel a coolness or a warmth of the air on your skin? Can you notice the contact your body is making with the ground beneath you? Can you notice what is beneath you supporting you? Can you let yourself be supported? 
    7. Now, take a moment to relax the body. Sink into the ground beneath you. Notice if there are any places of tension or tightness in your body. We often hold our stress as tension in the body, in our muscles and our back and neck and face. Become aware of your own body and where you may be holding tension, what feels tight or constricted. 
    8. This is another moment of choice: the power of the pause to simply become aware of how you’re showing up in this moment and then choosing how to be in this movement. Are there areas of tension in the body? And if so, can you breathe into those areas? And as you exhale, can you invite in ease? Can you let go of tension? With each inhale, create spaciousness and openness in any areas of tension or tightness. And with each exhale, a letting go. 
    9. Often in our busy modern lives, we’re stressed, anxious, tense, or nervous. Another choice we can make each day is to exercise our own ability to pause, to connect inward, and to regulate our own nervous systems. In fact, one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself to improve your wellbeing and health is a regulated nervous system. It not only boosts health, but it aids sleep and digestion, can improve focus and clarity, and can help you make wise choices in navigating life. 
    10. Take another moment to check in. How do you feel? What is your emotional landscape right now? You may feel tired, you may feel excited or nervous or anxious or at ease. Simply notice whatever is happening in your inner experience in this moment. 
    11. Gently bring your attention back to the feel of the breath in the body. Notice where you feel that breath moving in and out. Notice how you can sit and receive the breath. Perhaps you feel your breath in the rise and fall of your chest, or the movement of the belly, or the air passing in and out of your nostrils. Just notice where you feel that breath and just focus your attention there for a few moments. There’s no need to change the breath. Just allow its natural and easy rhythm to move in and out of your body. With each inhale, feel the spaciousness in the torso. With each exhale, imagine the body receiving the message, It’s okay to soften. It’s safe to slow down. You might silently say to yourself, as you breathe in, I calm the body. And as you breathe out, I soften and release. Breathing in, I calm my body. Breathing out, I soften and release. 
    12. Take a few more slow, deep breaths. With each inhale, create space and openness in the body. With each exhale, there’s an opportunity to relax, to release, to let go. 
    13. Your mind will wander, and that’s okay. This is a moment of mindfulness, a moment of choice. You are noticing that your mind has gone and been distracted, and you are cultivating the power to place your attention where you want it. Gently bring that attention back to your breath without judgment, without criticism and with a gentleness. Each noticing that the mind has wondered is not a failure, it’s a moment of mindfulness, a moment of care, of choice, a moment of gentleness with yourself, an opportunity to exercise that mental power to place your attention where you want it. It’s a beautiful reminder that every moment is an opportunity to begin again. 
    14. Now gently bring your awareness to your whole body. Notice how it feels to sit. See if in the next few moments, you can make the choice to let go of any need to change anything. To let go of any reflexive criticism, of any notion you’re doing this wrong. See if you can hold yourself with gratitude for simply showing up for this meditation with an open heart and an open mind. Notice how that feels. Whatever you experience, see if you can choose to meet your experience and yourself with kindness. This is another choice we have. 
    15. Try this phrase: What if it’s not a problem? What if I’m experiencing discomfort in this moment? And what if it’s not a problem? What if my mind is busy in this movement? And what it’s not a problem. What if i’m feeling restless in this moments? And what is it’s is not a problems? This is a choice we can make each day. Seeing life’s challenges not as a problem to fix or a signal that something is wrong, but instead choosing to meet our experience with curiosity and as an opportunity to learn and grow and navigate what’s happening in this moment with more ease, less resistance. 
    16. If you like, place a hand on the heart. Feel the warmth of your own touch, and silently offer yourself these few gentle phrases, allowing them to and in the mind and heart. May I be kind to myself in this moment. May I meet myself with tenderness just as I am. May I know that in each moment I have the power to pause and to choose how to meet myself, how to meet others and how to meet this world with care and tenderness. 
    17. Let’s take a breath together, a nice inhale, breathing in. And a beautiful exhale, breathing out. Begin to sense the whole body grounded, supported at ease. 
    18. As we come toward the close of this meditation, reflect for a moment on the idea that this moment and every moment you can practice mindfulness, awareness, and choice. Every moment is a fresh opportunity to practice, a new beginning. As this new year begins, know that you can return to this place of presence, tenderness, beingness and choice again and again. 
    19. When you’re ready, slowly bring your awareness back to the room you’re in. You can wiggle your fingers and toes. And when it feels right, I invite you to softly raise up your gaze or open your eyes. Thank you so much for practicing with me. 



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  • Meet Uncertainty with Compassion With Walking Meditation

    Meet Uncertainty with Compassion With Walking Meditation

    Life is inherently changeable and uncertain, and our resilience relies on how we relate to that fact. Mindfulness doesn’t mean everything’s fine or that we’re calm all the time. We aim for patience, clarity, and then—when it’s time—skillful action. 

    Whatever we face, we can meet uncertainty with compassion. This might look like carving out a moment to settle before deciding what comes next. Instead of remaining caught up in reactivity, anger, and fear, it takes effort and training to find a balance between accepting what we cannot change and seeking out where to actively put our effort. 

    The heart of mindfulness means doing our best to navigate our experience, even our crises, with both precision and compassion.

    Take a moment when you’re able to explore that balance. The heart of mindfulness means doing our best to navigate our experience, even our crises, with both precision and compassion. 

    A Mindful Walking Practice to Meet Uncertainty with Compassion

    1. So as you start, focus on what it feels like to walk. Notice the physical sensation of each step. Notice your foot rising, the shift of weight in your body, and then your foot returning to the ground. 

    2. You might label each step as step. Or you might count small runs of steps, perhaps up to 10, and then start again. 

    3. Note your mind’s tendency to add on to your experience, often in ways that complicate even the most challenging moments. Your mind may already be wandering into the future or the past. When you catch yourself lost in thoughts like that, come back again to one step. 

    4. And now, if you’d like, expand your awareness. Notice sounds around you. With a sense of unforced and balanced effort, notice smells, touch, and sights. 

    5. With a sense of strength and perhaps appreciation, immerse yourself in the physical sensation of the walk that you’re taking. 

    6. If a thought or a feeling holds your awareness or becomes a distraction, see if you’re able to practice letting go a little. Notice that sense of getting hooked or tied up in your thoughts and then come back again to that immediate physical sensation of each step. 

    7. Noticing those thoughts, return your attention again to the physical sensation of taking your walk. 

    8. For the last few minutes of the practice, if you’d like, focus on a sense of kindness and compassion. You’re not alone right now. Everyone around the world is struggling to get by. 

    You’re not alone right now. Everyone around the world is struggling to get by. 

    9. So as you walk, taking in your reality, remind yourself: This is what is right now for me. This is where I am—observing my emotional state, my state of mind, and thoughts. 

    10. And then as you walk, wish yourself whatever you would wish for your closest friends right now. 

    May I be happy and at ease. 

    May I recover my sense of resolve and strength. 

    11. If it feels comfortable, you might also expand that. Picture your family and friends in the same way. 

    May we all find our sense of resolve and ease.

    May we all stay healthy and safe.

     12. And if, while you’re walking, you encounter other people or even pass other houses, you may take a moment to offer those strangers the same wishes. Whoever they are, whatever their life experience, everyone has their struggles. So as you pass these other people, or their homes, wish them well.

    May you find health and happiness. 

    13. As we end the formal mindfulness practice, expand your awareness to all beings everywhere—even the ones you find most difficult and challenging. Everyone in some way is driven by a motivation to be free of suffering, to be free of stress, to be healthy, to be happy. 

    May everyone everywhere throughout the world find a sense of resilience, stay healthy, and find happiness. 

    An Election Day Meditation 

    Follow along as Rhonda Magee guides us through a S.T.O.P. practice for focused awareness. The invitation is to be kind to yourself, take a conscious breath, and gently relate to thoughts, emotions, and sensations that arise.
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    • Rhonda Magee
    • November 5, 2024



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