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  • How to Fall in Love & Uncover Happiness in 4 Minutes or Less

    How to Fall in Love & Uncover Happiness in 4 Minutes or Less

    If we want to understand how to fall in love, then we have to know what builds connection.

    We often think of love as primarily a feeling, rather than a skill that we can build. So when we look for advice for how to fall in love, we miss out on one of the primary pathways to an enduring happiness: facilitating a sense of connection.

    When we feel connected, we feel balanced. And when we feel balanced, we often feel happy. The problem is, as we grow up, we have to learn how to shield ourselves from vulnerability, so we build up walls or put on armor that make connection more difficult.

    One of the most powerful (and challenging) practices to do is look into another person’s eyes for a prolonged period of time. It immediately makes us feel vulnerable! It may not matter whether it’s a stranger or someone you’ve been in a partnership with for over 50 years (sometimes this makes it more difficult). But when we do it, it’s fascinating what arises.

    Check out this short video from Soul Pancake to see some of the surprising results of people making connection:

    One of the defining characteristics of compassion is recognizing our common humanity.

    Behind my eyes and your eyes are the same fundamental needs, to feel cared about and understood—to feel a sense of belonging.

    When we look into another’s eyes and see this, it can melt the barrier and uncover the connection that’s always been there. This is an essential element for uncovering happiness.

    Try this out as an experiment for yourself:

    Today, look into the people’s eyes that you meet and see the person behind the eyes. What happens when you bring the mindset that this person is “Just like me?” This mindset understands that underneath it all, this person wants the same things I do, to feel cared about, to feel understood, to feel accepted, a sense of belonging, and to be happy. And all of those experiences are foundational to our understanding of what sits at the heart of real, lasting love of any kind. Being intentional about fostering genuine connection—with yourself, with others—is how to fall in love.

    Put your biases aside, test it out and see what you notice.

    Allow your experience to be your guide.

    Adapted from Mindfulness & Psychotherapy



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  • HHS Overhauls Vaccine Advisory Committee to Restore Public Trust

    HHS Overhauls Vaccine Advisory Committee to Restore Public Trust

    WASHINGTON — The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS) announced Monday that it has removed all 17 members of the Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices (ACIP), citing a need to restore public trust in federal vaccine recommendations.

    The sweeping change, directed by HHS Secretary Robert F. Kennedy Jr., comes as part of a broader initiative to increase transparency, reduce conflicts of interest, and realign public health decisions with impartial scientific standards.

    “Today we are prioritizing the restoration of public trust above any specific pro- or anti-vaccine agenda,” Kennedy said. “The public must know that unbiased science—evaluated through a transparent process and insulated from conflicts of interest—guides the recommendations of our health agencies.”

    The move follows President Donald Trump’s “Restoring Gold Standard Science” executive order, which mandates the reconstitution of scientific advisory bodies to ensure their independence from industry and political influence. The HHS statement noted that 13 of the 17 committee members were appointed in 2024 by the Biden administration, which would have extended their terms into 2028.

    “A clean sweep is necessary to reestablish public confidence in vaccine science,” Kennedy said. “ACIP’s new members will prioritize public health and evidence-based medicine. The Committee will no longer function as a rubber stamp for industry profit-taking agendas.”

    The committee, which plays a critical role in determining national immunization schedules, will convene its next meeting June 25–27 at the CDC headquarters in Atlanta. New members are currently under consideration, according to HHS.

    “The entire world once looked to American health regulators for guidance, inspiration, scientific impartiality, and unimpeachable integrity,” Kennedy added. “Public trust has eroded. Only through radical transparency and gold standard science, will we earn it back.”

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  • How to stop tracking macros and trust yourself around food

    How to stop tracking macros and trust yourself around food

    “I worried that if I stopped tracking macros, I would lose my physique.”

    After years of careful macro tracking, Dr. Fundaro finally admitted to herself that the method no longer worked for her. Yet she was afraid to give it up.

    If anyone should feel confident in their food choices, it would be Dr. Gabrielle Fundaro. After all, Dr. Fundaro has a PhD in Human Nutrition, a decade-plus of nutrition coaching experience, and six powerlifting competitions under her belt.

    Yet, when she was really honest with herself, Dr. Fundaro realized that she felt far from confident around food. For years, she’d used macro counting as a way to stay “on track” with her eating.

    And it worked… until it didn’t.

    After years of macro tracking, Dr. Fundaro was tired of the whole thing. She was tired of making sure her macros were perfectly in balance. She was sick of not being able to just pick whatever she wanted off a menu and enjoy the meal, trusting that her health and physique wouldn’t go sideways as a result.

    Yet the idea of not tracking freaked her out. Every time she quit tracking, she worried:

    “What if I don’t eat enough protein, and lose all my muscle?”

    “What if I overeat and gain fat?”

    “What if I have no idea how to fuel myself without tracking macros? And what does that say about me as an expert in the field of nutrition?”

    The more Dr. Fundaro wrestled with macro tracking, the more she wanted to find an alternative.

    Something that would support her nutritional goals while also giving her a sense of freedom and peace around food.

    Calorie counting wouldn’t do it. That was just as restrictive as counting macros—maybe more.

    Intuitive eating didn’t seem like a good fit either. Intuitive eating relies heavily on a person’s ability to tune into internal hunger and fullness cues to guide food choices and amounts. After years of relying on external cues (like her macro targets), Dr. Fundaro didn’t feel trusting enough of her own instincts; she wanted more structure.

    Meanwhile, at the gym, Dr. Fundaro began lifting based on the Rate of Perceived Exertion (RPE) scale—a framework that helps individuals quantify the amount of effort they’re putting into a given movement or activity. It’s considered a valuable tool to help people train safely and effectively according to their ability and goals. (More on that soon.)

    While using the RPE scale in her training, Dr. Fundaro found she was both getting stronger and recovering better. There was something to this combination of structure and intuition that just worked.

    And then, it dawned on Dr. Fundaro like the apple hit Sir Isaac Newton on the head:

    If Rate of Perceived Exertion could help her train better, couldn’t a similar framework help her eat better?

    With that, the RPE-Eating Scale was born.

    Dr. Fundaro has since used this alternative method to help herself and her clients regain confidence and self-trust around food; improve nutritional awareness and competence; and free themselves from food tracking.

    (Yup, Dr. Fundaro finally trusts her eating choices—no macro tracker in sight.)

    In this article, you’ll learn how she did it, plus:

    • What the RPE-Eating scale is
    • How to practice RPE-Eating
    • How to use RPE-Eating for weight loss or gain
    • Whether RPE-Eating is right for you or your clients
    • What to keep in mind if you’re skeptical of the concept

    What is RPE-Eating?

    Invented by Gunnar Borg in the 1960’s, Rate of Perceived Exertion (RPE) is a scale that’s used to measure an individual’s perceived level of effort or exertion during exercise.

    Though Borg’s RPE uses a scale that goes from 6 to 20, many modern scales use a 0 to 10 range (which is the range that Dr. Fundaro adapted for her RPE-Eating scale).

    Here’s the RPE scale used in fitness.

    Rating Perceived Exertion Level
    0 No exertion, at rest
    1 Very light
    2-3 Light
    4-5 Moderate, somewhat hard
    6-7 High, vigorous
    8-9 Very hard
    10 Maximum effort, highest possible

    Originally used in physiotherapy settings, the scale is now frequently used in fitness training.

    For example, powerlifters might use it to choose how heavy they want to go during a training session. Or, pregnant women might use it to ensure they aren’t over-exerting themselves during a fitness class or strength training session.

    Because human experience is highly subjective and individual, the scale allows the exerciser to judge how hard they’re working for themselves. A coach can provide a general guideline, such as “aim for a 7/10 this set,” but it’s up to the client to determine exactly what that means for them.

    Dr. Fundaro had used the scale many times with herself, and clients. She always appreciated the sense of autonomy it gave her clients, while still providing some structure.

    So, she decided to take the same 1-10 scale and its principles, and apply it to eating.

    Here’s what the RPE-Eating Scale looks like:

    Table shows a hunger scale that goes from 1 to 10. 1 represents feeling painfully hungry, dizzy or sick; 2 represents feeling “hangry,” with uncomfortable hunger and stomach growling; 3 represents feeling like hunger is noticeable and stomach is rumbling; 4 represents feeling mild hunger a snack would satisfy; 5 represents feeling no hunger or fullness, just sated; 6 represents feeling a noticeable fullness, but comfortable; 7 represents feeling a little too full for comfort; 8 represents feeling an uncomfortable fullness; 9 represents feeling very uncomfortable or “stuffed”; and 10 represents feeling overly full to the point of feeling sick.

    The goal with RPE-Eating is similar to RPE when training: Develop the skills to determine what is sufficient for you, without having to rely on other external metrics (such as apps or trackers).

    How to practice RPE-Eating

    If you’ve ever practiced RPE-training, you’ll know it takes some time to get used to. RPE-Eating is the same.

    Don’t expect to be in lockstep with all of your body’s internal cues at first, especially if you’ve been ignoring them for a long time.

    With this in mind, apply the steps below to practice the RPE-Eating process.

    Step #1: Get clear on your goals.

    RPE-Eating is not just another diet.

    “It’s not about aiming to change your body,” Dr. Fundaro explains. “It’s not about feeling more control over your diet. Nor is it about feeling like you’re eating the ‘optimal’ diet.”

    If your priority is maintaining a specific physique (such as staying ultra lean) or changing your body (building muscle or losing fat), this method can be adapted for that, though it isn’t the most efficient one to use.

    Instead, RPE-Eating is about sensing into what your body needs and giving yourself appropriate nourishment—while building inner trust and confidence along the way.

    “You have to trust that you’ll be able to nourish your body, and that you’ll be okay even though things may change in your body,” says Dr. Fundaro.

    Admittedly, this can be challenging to do. It can also be difficult to let go of the expectation that you’ll hit the “right” macros at every meal—which RPE-Eating isn’t specifically designed to do.

    However, if your goal is to build more self-trust, RPE-Eating can be a great tool to help you do that.

    Step #2: Practice identifying your hunger cues

    Before we explore this step, let’s distinguish between two motivators for eating.

    First, there’s hunger. Hunger occurs when physical cues in your body (like a general sense of emptiness or rumbling in your stomach, or lightheadedness) tells you that you require energy—known to us mortals as food.

    Then, there’s appetite. Appetite is our desire or interest in eating. It can stay peaked even after hunger is quelled, especially if something looks or tastes especially delicious—like a warm, gooey cookie offered after dinner that you feel you have to try, even though you’re technically full.

    While it’s normal to eat for both hunger and appetite drives, the two can become mixed up. Especially if we have a history of dieting and tracking food.

    The RPE-Eating scale helps you tap back into those true physical hunger cues, and learn the difference between hunger and appetite.

    To put this in practice, try this before your next meal:

    ▶ Using the RPE-Eating scale mentioned above, identify your current level of hunger. Record the number on paper or the notes app on your phone.

    ▶ Then, eat your meal with as much presence as possible. (Note: This in itself takes practice. It can help to limit distractions, such as eating at the table rather than in front of the TV, and focusing on the flavors and textures of the food you’re eating, and how you feel eating it.)

    ▶ About halfway through the meal, check in again. Based on the scale, how hungry are you now? As before, record the number.

    ▶ If you’re still hungry, finish your meal. When you’re finished, repeat the same process, writing down where you are on the scale.

    ▶ Once you’re done, take a minute and tune into what your body feels like. What does it feel like to be full? “Download” that feeling into your mind and internalize it in your body, as if you’re updating your phone with the latest software.

    Repeat this for as many meals as you can. Aim to do it for one meal a day for a week or so, or for as long as feels good to you. Don’t worry if you forget: simply repeat the practice when you can.

    The more you practice this, the better you’ll become at being attuned with your actual hunger cues. With time, you’ll likely find you develop more trust in your internal compass than what the latest diet tracker says for your needs.

    (For more on fully-tuned-in, mindful eating, read: The benefits of slow eating.)

    Step #3: Get to know your non-hunger triggers

    Have you ever come home after a super stressful day and you’ve basically thrown yourself onto a bag of chips or a carton of ice cream?

    We might like to imagine ourselves eating every meal mindfully, using the RPE- Eating system to a tee, but life rarely works like that.

    Chances are, there are certain situations that trigger you to eat more quickly, mindlessly, and beyond the point of hunger.

    That’s okay.

    Dr. Fundaro’s suggestion? Aim to become more aware of the situations that cause you to overeat in the first place.

    To do this, you can practice something we use in PN Coaching: Notice and name.

    When you find yourself scarfing down food faster than you can blink, simply try to notice what’s going on.

    Can you name a feeling—such as anxiety, or sadness?

    Can you identify a situation or moment that happened before you started eating—say, an argument with your teenager, or a nasty email from your boss?

    Once you’ve identified the feeling, event, or person that’s triggered you to eat compulsively, see if you can also identify what you might really be needing or desiring.

    Eating for comfort is normal. However, if it’s the only coping method we have, it can cause more problems than it solves in the long run.

    When you find yourself with an urge to eat mindlessly, consider what non-food coping mechanisms might help you feel better. That could be 10 minutes away from your computer to close your eyes and breathe, a walk outside, or a quick call to a friend to rant—or just talk about something completely unrelated.

    Getting to know your non-hunger eating triggers—plus widening your repertoire of self-soothing methods—is just as valuable as getting to know your hunger cues. Over time, this awareness will allow you to eat with more intention.

    Step #4: Eat for satiety AND satisfaction

    Even when you’re “adequately fueled” from a physical perspective, you might still feel unsatisfied from an emotional perspective.

    That’s because, according to the RPE-Eating framework, eating should fulfill two criteria:

    ▶ Satiety describes the physical sensation of being full; your calorie or fuel needs are met.

    ▶ Satisfaction describes a more holistic feeling of being nourished; your calorie needs are met, but your meal also felt pleasurable.

    If you ate to satiety only, your calorie needs might be met and your physical hunger quelled, but you might still feel unsatisfied—maybe because chocolate is on your “don’t” list, and even though you’ve eaten everything else in your kitchen that isn’t chocolate, nothing quite “hit the spot.”

    In other words, you can eat to satiety at every meal, yet still be “restricting” foods.

    You may not be restricting calories per se, but you may have banned entire food groups—baked goods, pizza, or whatever else curls your toes. This can lead to a feeling of constantly needing to police yourself, and doesn’t leave much room for the flexibility and spontaneity that real-life (enjoyable) eating requires.

    (Plus, avoiding particular foods tends to work like a pendulum: restrict now; binge later. If you want to learn how to stop those wild swings, read: How to eat junk food: A guide for conflicted humans)

    Satisfaction is a key part of eating.

    After all, humans don’t just eat for adequate nutrients and energy. We eat for other reasons too: pleasure, novelty, tradition, community, enjoyment.

    So, to take your RPE-Eating to the next level, Dr. Fundaro recommends trying it with meals and foods you genuinely enjoy.

    If any foods or meals have been “off-limits,” try eating them using the RPE technique. (Macaroni and cheese, anyone?)

    Practice using the scale with a variety of meals (including those you may have restricted previously), and notice how you feel over time.

    With experience, you’ll get to know what it feels like to adequately fuel yourself with a variety of foods—including those you genuinely enjoy.

    How do I know if RPE-Eating is right for me or my clients?

    RPE-Eating isn’t for everyone, but might be a good fit for you (or your clients) if:

    ✅ You feel dependent on food tracking, but you don’t want to be.

    ✅ Every time you stop tracking, the loss of perceived control freaks you out and drives you right back to tracking.

    ✅ You want to stop tracking, but you want to have some type of system or guidance in place.

    ✅ You’re currently tracking (or considering tracking) your food intake, and you have elevated risk factors for developing an eating disorder such as high body dissatisfaction; a history of yo-yo dieting; a history of disordered eating patterns; and/or participation in weight class sports.

    If you’re a coach looking to use this tool with a client, check out Dr. Fundaro’s resources. Remember this tool may not be for everyone, and how you apply it needs to be flexible.

    Note: If you or your client struggles with disordered eating, this tool does not replace working with a health professional who specializes in eating disorders, such as a therapist, doctor, or registered dietician.

    How to use RPE- Eating for weight loss or weight gain

    According to Dr. Fundaro, the best way to use RPE-Eating is in a weight-neutral setting.

    While it could be used for weight modification, she doesn’t recommend treating it as another way to hit your macros or “goal weight.”

    “I’m not anti-weight modification,” Dr. Fundaro explains. “I’m pro safe weight modification. I compare weight loss to contact sports. There are inherent risks but they can be mitigated through best practices.”

    Dr. Fundaro elaborates: “Since RPE-Eating removes macro-tracking, which can increase risk of disordered eating in some people, and relies on biofeedback and non-hunger triggers, RPE-Eating provides a safety net that macro-tracking alone doesn’t provide.”

    But if you do want to use RPE-Eating for intentional weight change, what should you do?

    Dr. Fundaro recommends aiming to hover around the ranges that support your goal.

    (As a reminder, a 1 to 3 on the RPE-Eating scale is categorized as “inadequate fuel; a 4 to 7 is categorized as “adequate fuel”; and a 8 to 10 is categorized as “excess fuel.”)

    ▶ If the goal is weight gain, you’ll likely aim to eat within the 7 to 8 range for most of your meals.

    ▶ If the goal is weight loss, you’ll likely aim to eat within the 4 to 5 range for most of your meals.

    A key thing to remember is that you would never use RPE-Eating for extreme weight-modification such as for a bodybuilding competition. “That would be like using physio exercises to prepare for a powerlifting competition.” In other words, it’s not the right tool for the job.

    Hold up, bro: Isn’t this just feelings over facts?

    If you’re skeptical and think this is just eating “based on your feelings,” keep in mind that RPE was once laughed at by lifters, too.

    These days, RPE and autoregulation are widely accepted in gym culture and have been studied as a valid method for managing and guiding your training. 1

    RPE isn’t perfect, but it’s pretty accurate and incredibly convenient. A lot more convenient than, say, using a velocity loss tracker for every set. 2 3

    And while it might seem like it’s all feelings-based, the RPE scale is actually built around practicing the skill of interoceptive awareness—the awareness of internal sensations in your body.

    The better you get at the skill of interoceptive awareness, the more you’ll be able to use that awareness to make informed decisions about your training.

    RPE-Eating is similar: It builds the skill of sensing into your own body, and lets your internal sensations guide your decisions.

    Similar to how the bar slowing down on a squat would indicate you’re getting closer to failure, experiencing the absence of hunger at the end of your meal would indicate you’re closer to being full.

    Instead of tracking your glucose levels to validate your perceived hunger, you use internal cues that correlate with lowered blood sugar and coincide with hunger.

    And, let’s be real: Being mindful of stomach grumbling or general hunger pangs is much more convenient and accessible than tracking glucose readings.

    This process will not be perfect. You may undereat or overeat at first. But over time, with practice, you’ll build the core skills of RPE-Eating.

    Are there downsides to RPE-Eating?

    While this tool can be helpful, it’s just a tool. A screwdriver is great, but it isn’t useful when you need a hammer.

    RPE-Eating can be great for helping you become more aware of your internal hunger cues and build a better relationship with food along the way.

    It can also be more laborious. It requires paying real attention to your feelings (physical and emotional), and reflecting on them.

    This can be difficult for anyone—but especially people who aren’t able to sit at the table and have a leisurely meal, like parents with small kids, or people with work schedules that require eating on-the-go.

    If this is you, just use RPE-Eating when it does work for you—or simply pick and choose specific steps to use in isolation. For example, maybe you try RPE-Eating on the occasional quiet lunch break. Or, maybe you focus solely on developing your awareness of hunger and fullness cues, without trying to change anything else.

    If you’ve been tracking macros for a long time, it can be hard to stop.

    Tracking macros isn’t inherently bad. It can actually be a helpful tool to teach you more about nutrition. But it’s also not something most people want to do for the rest of their lives.

    The problem is, if you’ve depended on tracking your food intake, stopping can feel scary.

    In these cases, RPE-Eating can be used as a kind of off-ramp to help transition away from rigid and restrictive macro tracking.

    (It can also help loosen the compulsion to “always finish your plate.” Though macros tracking and habitual plate-cleaning may sound different, they’re actually similar: both rely on external cues—such as macro targets or what’s served on your plate—to determine when you’re “done.”)

    RPE-Eating won’t take away all the scary feelings that may come with changing ingrained ways of eating.

    However, it can provide some structure and language to help you, or your clients, eat with less fear, less stress, and a bit more confidence.

    “The goal,” says Dr. Fundaro, “is to know that you’re nourishing yourself—and you don’t need a food tracker to do that.”

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    1. Helms, Eric R., Kedric Kwan, Colby A. Sousa, John B. Cronin, Adam G. Storey, and Michael C. Zourdos. 2020. Methods for Regulating and Monitoring Resistance Training. Journal of Human Kinetics 74 (1): 23–42.

    2. Hackett, Daniel A., Nathan A. Johnson, Mark Halaki, and Chin-Moi Chow. 2012. A Novel Scale to Assess Resistance-Exercise Effort. Journal of Sports Sciences 30 (13): 1405–13.

    3. Zourdos, Michael C., Alex Klemp, Chad Dolan, Justin M. Quiles, Kyle A. Schau, Edward Jo, Eric Helms, et al. 2016. Novel Resistance Training-Specific Rating of Perceived Exertion Scale Measuring Repetitions in Reserve. Journal of Strength and Conditioning Research 30 (1): 267–75.

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  • Building Trust: The Foundation of a Healthy Relationship

    Building Trust: The Foundation of a Healthy Relationship

    Building Trust: The Foundation of a Healthy Relationship

    Establishing trust is an essential aspect of any relationship, whether personal or professional. Trust is the anchor that holds relationships together, providing a sense of security, stability, and understanding. When trust is present, it encourages open communication, fosters collaboration, and promotes a sense of unity. In this article, we will explore the importance of building trust and the key factors that contribute to its development.

    Understanding Trust

    Trust is not just a feeling, but a choice. It’s a deliberate decision to believe in someone’s words, actions, and intentions. Trust is built on a foundation of reliability, integrity, and open communication. It’s the understanding that the other person is acting in good faith, and that their words are consistent with their actions.

    Factors That Affect Trust

    There are several factors that can influence the development of trust in a relationship. Some of the key factors include:

    • Consistency: Consistency is key in building trust. When individuals consistently demonstrate good behavior, such as keeping promises and honoring commitments, it fosters a sense of dependability.
    • Integrity: When individuals act with integrity, it breeds trust. This means being truthful, transparent, and fair in all interactions.
    • Communication: Effective communication is essential in any relationship. When parties are open and honest in their communication, it helps to build trust.
    • Accountability: When individuals are accountable for their actions, it demonstrates a sense of responsibility, which is vital in building trust.
    • Emotional Intelligence: Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to recognize and understand emotions. It’s essential in building trust, as it allows individuals to empathize and connect with others on a deeper level.

    Building Trust in Personal Relationships

    In personal relationships, building trust is crucial for a strong and healthy bond. Here are some tips to help you build trust in your personal relationships:

    • Be transparent: Be open and honest in your communication, sharing your thoughts, feelings, and intentions.
    • Follow through on commitments: Keep your promises and honor your commitments, demonstrating your reliability and accountability.
    • Show empathy and understanding: Be emotionally intelligent, recognizing and acknowledging the feelings and needs of others.
    • Be consistent: Demonstrate consistency in your behavior and actions, fostering a sense of dependability.

    Building Trust in Professional Relationships

    In professional settings, building trust is essential for effective collaboration and success. Here are some tips to help you build trust in your professional relationships:

    • Be transparent: Share information, provide updates, and keep colleagues informed about projects and goals.
    • Be reliable: Meet deadlines, keep promises, and deliver on commitments, showcasing your reliability.
    • Communicate effectively: Communicate clearly and respectfully, actively listening to others and clarifying their concerns.
    • Foster a positive work environment: Encourage collaboration, respect, and a sense of community, promoting a positive and productive work environment.

    Conclusion

    Building trust is a crucial step in fostering strong, healthy relationships. By understanding the factors that influence trust and incorporating the tips outlined above, you can establish a foundation of trust, paving the way for a successful and fulfilling relationship.

    Frequently Asked Questions

    Q: What is the difference between trust and trustworthiness?
    A: Trust is the feeling of reliance or confidence in someone or something, while trustworthiness is the quality of being reliable and trustworthy.

    Q: Can trust be rebuilt if it’s broken?
    A: Yes, trust can be rebuilt, but it requires effort and commitment from both parties to restore and maintain it.

    Q: Is trust a one-way street, or can both parties work to establish trust?
    A: Trust is a two-way street, and both parties must work together to establish and maintain it.

    Q: Can trust be established with someone who has broken trust in the past?
    A: Yes, but it requires a significant amount of effort, communication, and commitment to rebuild trust.

    Q: Is there a limit to how much trust one can have in someone?
    A: While trust can be strong and unwavering, there is a limit to how much trust one can have in someone who has consistently demonstrated untrustworthy behavior.

  • How Leaders Build Trust at Work Through Authenticity

    How Leaders Build Trust at Work Through Authenticity

    How much trust does your organization experience? That’s the first question I ask when I do a culture assessment with the businesses I serve. Trust is the essential ingredient and foundation for all relationships and businesses. Unless leaders build trust, they can’t build anything that will succeed for the long term, and any kind of organizational change will be seriously challenged.

    Organizational scholars define trust as our willingness to be vulnerable to the actions of others because we believe they have good intentions and will behave well toward us. In other words, we let others have power over us because we don’t think they’ll hurt us; we think they’ll help us and have our backs. When the trust level is high within coworker relationships, it corresponds to trusting the company that employs us, and we feel confident it won’t deceive us or abuse its relationship with us. 

    But what are the mechanics of this? How do we trust? In order to trust someone, especially someone who is unfamiliar to us—which means we haven’t had the opportunity to develop trust yet—our brains build a model of what the person is likely to do and why. And there’s a lot going on beneath the surface; we use both mindfulness and empathy during every collaborative endeavor. This means both people in an interaction are always assessing, Should I trust you? How much do you trust me? Some of us are innately trusting, naturally seeking positive intent and putting we, before me. But in my experience, trust is earned. This is why it matters that we as leaders build trust with those we lead. It is not wise to trust someone blindly until you have vetted that they are, in fact, trustworthy.  

    Trust and Safety Requires Nurturing

    The level of trust in an organization is influenced by how much psychological safety exists. Do people feel safe voicing their honest opinions? Do they believe that any criticism aimed their way will be fair and that their response to it will be heard? Teams that enjoy high trust levels have been shown to be more creative and to come to decisions faster. They’re higher performing teams because they’re willing to admit mistakes and to call out problems and challenges and ask for help. If two teams are equally smart, why would a more trusting team be more productive than a less trusting one? Because they iterate faster. They learn faster. And why do they do that? Because they trust each other to be honest and point out the things they’re discovering in real time. A foundation of safety helps these team members understand and develop those discoveries quickly, collaborate smoothly, and cocreate with flow. 

    In the workplace, trust is highly influenced by leadership because leaders model the behaviors others will follow. When leaders lead with fear and dominance, trust and safety suffer in the long run. A boss who berates, threatens, or punishes you will affect your performance and ability to speak up authentically as you focus your attention on self-protection. This leads to feelings of “learned helplessness” as employees avoid the boss and/or remain as invisible as they can by doing the minimum. And face it: this kind of leadership behavior hurts, to the point of inflicting trauma. 

    Humans experience social rejection and social pain in the brain’s pain matrix for longer than they experience physical pain. Research in neuroscience has shown this. We are wired to connect and belong. If we lack the trust and safety that are essential to belonging, we feel that our very survival is threatened, which prolongs our suffering. To turn this around, we can consciously and actively work to create greater belonging using conscious leadership techniques at work and in the world. Belonging means belonging to yourself, as well as being connected to a purpose larger than yourself. 

    Authenticity In Action 

    Being authentic is one of the fastest ways to create psychological safety in the workplace.  

    Psychological safety is the sense that we can share our feelings, beliefs, and experiences openly with others at work without fear of reprimand, losing status, or punishment. Studies on psychological safety conducted in collaboration between Google and the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) found it to be one of the most important factors in creating successful teams and thus high performing, innovative organizations. This insight is the result of almost 30 years of research by Amy Edmondson. Psychological safety supports moderate risk taking, speaking your mind, creativity, and most importantly trust. In my work with teams and senior leaders, I assess the psychological safety of the individual leader, the team and the culture first.

    Before leaders build trust through being courageous in our interactions with others, we need the courage to understand ourselves and what’s important to us. Try out this practice that focuses on cultivating this understanding. 

    A Mindful Practice to Deepen Your Inner Trust

    Find a quiet space if you can and take out a journal. Take a minute or two to breathe and tap into your center. Now think of a recent experience you had with a partner, friend, family member, or coworker where you wanted to be authentic, but weren’t. Imagine pausing at the height of this interaction and asking yourself the following questions:

    • What am I afraid would happen if I shared my thoughts and feelings with this person right now?
    • How will I feel if I don’t share them?
    • If I weren’t afraid, what would I most want to say to this person right now?
    • How can I be even more open and vulnerable?

    Cultivating Trust with Your Teams at Work

    As leaders and managers, it’s important that we’re the first ones to model how to be authentic in the workplace. Josh Tetrick, cofounder and CEO of Eat Just, Inc., and I talked about his process of hiring for resilience and developing a resilient culture by leading with authenticity. First and foremost, Josh makes it clear in his communications what he cares about most. Eat Just’s mission is to increase the consumption of plant-based foods, to reduce animal maltreatment and forest degradation. Josh has found that the more confident he is in his mission and who he is, the more vulnerable and humble he can be when he makes mistakes. 

    He now recognizes that when Eat Just was just starting, he projected more self-assurance—to the point of arrogance—than he really felt because he wanted to sound more confident than he really was. But as he’s stepped into leading, he’s learned that he’s good at some things and not so good at others, and he knows and accepts that. This frees him from feeling the need to overcompensate and allows him to be his authentic self.

    Josh let me in on some of the things he says when interviewing new hires: “This is the kind of company we are—this is the mission. If you gave me a 100% chance to get bought by an investor or a 20% chance to stay in the ring and get closer to achieving our mission, I’d choose the 20% probability.” 

    Then he tells potential new hires he wants them to ask themselves if they’re willing to get gritty, step into the unknown, and stay focused on that mission for the long haul. Sharing his truth upfront in this way weeds out people who aren’t the greatest fit for the culture. Josh takes the same approach with investors. 

    Josh also asks job candidates questions that are designed to assess their resilience, because he’s found that those who are the best fit for his company are inherently resilient. Josh offers a great example of how leaders build trust by cultivating a strong inner game of authenticity and sharing your truth and confidence as a leader on the outside. 

    Leading from authenticity sometimes means leading from vulnerability. According to Brené Brown, vulnerability entails uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure. As a leader, you have the opportunity to create conditions that support naming the fears that come up around being vulnerable. Once they’re named, you can get past fear to the place where courage arises and encourage more confidence, teamwork, and connection.

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